Potential Risks for Non-Placement
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For a potential adoptive couple, it is natural to wonder if a birthmother will change her mind about putting her child up for adoption. Consequently, you and your spouse could be struggling with doubts about getting emotionally connected to a baby or the degree of excitement about a potential adoption. Such concerns are a normal part of the adoption process.
Adopting is an emotional journey. One that is filled with an array of emotions such as hope, fear, excitement, worry, joy, and sadness. It is possible that a birthmother choose you and then later change her mind and opt to parent. This is a loss you need to be prepared for as best you can.
There are characteristics that have been identified in birthmothers who are more likely to change their minds about placing their child up for adoption. It is important to understand that if a birthmother has one or more of these characteristics, it does not mean that she will change her mind. She can have all of these characteristics and opt to place her baby for adoption.
And if you are a potential birthmother considering adoption, it is wise to examine the risk factors in the checklist to see how they might relate to you. It can be beneficial to follow up by discussing any risks with an adoption counselor.
For potential adoptive families, it is important to note that nearly every birthmother will have one or more of these characteristics. Some birthmothers might have all of these characteristics and still place her child for adoption.
This checklist is a guide that can serve to identify the number of characteristics that exist and how extensive they are in order to discuss them with an adoption counselor:
- Birthmother is young (11-17 years old)
- Lack of life experience / immaturity
- First time parent
- Lack of family support or family not informed
- Dysfunctional family background
- Denial of emotions
- Unwilling / uncooperative in seeking counseling
- Inadequate time for counseling prior to delivery
- Finances of utmost concern
- Unknown/unsupportive/uninvolved birthfather
- Substance abuse (current or history of)
- Strong Native American heritage
- Birthparent has had negative experience with adoption
- History of mental illness or emotional problems
- No future goals
- Significant recent loss
- Negative or poor relationship with adopting couple
- Lack of consistency in facts related to different parties involved
- Lack of self awareness and ability to communicate ideas and feelings well
- Differences between adopting couple and birthparents on meaning of “open” adoption
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