Mother of an autistic child: They told me: Why do not you fuck him? and sent to pray for sins
The son of singer Solomiya Chubay mdash; from children who are called special. The eight-year-old Oleksy highly functional autism mdash; Asperger syndrome. A boy from another planet mdash; so describes Solomia’s state of a son. Eight years from day to day she does everything to make Oleksa a little more comfortable to live in our world.
Solomy is sure: we know too little about how autistics perceive the world. Hence the rejection of special children, and the fear of communication, and the complexity of adaptation.
To help parents, teachers, educators and people around them better understand autistic children, the singer organized Koliskov’s social project for Olexi, and in his support recorded a music album.
About the project and how to live if your child mdash; autistic, Solomia told for UaUa.info.
Thank God, the teacher interfered. It turned out who was right, who was to blame, and somehow everything died down.
But the fact is that in any conflict, all the cones will first of all fly to a special child.
What to say about strangers, even if close to such a child does not always understand what is happening to him.
It was very difficult for me to explain to the family what was happening to Oleksa, why it behaves like that. This, of course, was taken with hostility. They said that I was a bad mother, I was doing everything wrong with a child. They sent even to pray for sins in some monasteries, churches.
That is, there was no understanding at all of what autism was.
Now with Oleksa much easier. Gives results all the work that we do with him. And around there is more information about such special children, more understanding why he acts anyway, how to react to it. How can you agree with him, explain something.
He has a very interesting mind. When he talks, sometimes he just gives out brilliant things. But still, communication with him requires great patience. Constantly you hear from people: How do you stand it, I would have long ago stripped it.
There were times when I went out and just screamed into the sky For that.
Understand your childhood trauma. How you were traumatized in childhood, so you raise your child. And so, I practically worked in parallel: I was working with Oleksa, and with myself.
We were very helped by the Kolo Sime Center # 39; ї for autistic children. There they received information, help, and worked with teachers.
They helped me to accept the situation: Well, it happened. This is for life. You can start to feel sorry for yourself, and think about it like that, but it will not give you either a baby or nothing. You just need to take it as the raw data, and work with it.
Here is the thought that this is his condition forever mdash; with her the hardest thing was to get used to it. Because Oleksa with this very difficult to go through life.