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The development of the child’s personality, school children and older

Kids love to repeat and copy. Kids usually try to imitate adults (parents, for example). This may include the manner of conversation, and vocabulary, and even gait. Over time, the circle of contacts usually expands and new priorities and authorities appear – adult girlfriends, teacher, cartoon characters.

Recently, I began to notice that my father expressed less and less of my attempts to portray someone. Not postponing the matter to a distant box, I decided to start acting now, so that the child’s individuality would not be lost among the temporary objects to be followed.

Everything is simple here – you need as often as possible to remind the child how good, beautiful, beautiful and beloved he is. Maternal love does not happen much. It is important to keep track of your own words. For example, in response to I want the same purple hair as in Rarity, in no case should I answer, I love you and that. What is this? 9 out of 10 will perceive it as a stone in their garden.

Imitation of other children

At first, I was annoyed by this constant desire to please others, blindly copying other people’s children. There are a lot of examples: let’s buy a pencil case, like Tanya’s, Olya will not go dancing, well, then I don’t want to go, etc.

So you have to constantly remind you of your desires and personal preferences. It is important to act very carefully, without statements I do not care about what is there in Dasha, because, as practice shows, such phrases tend to reach other people’s parents.

We try to make out any situation. After all, I know that just because a daughter cannot, out of the blue, hate another skirt that she loved yesterday. It turns out that someone told her that she was fat, and someone else added that such skirts were out of fashion for a long time.

It would seem that such problems for first graders seem ridiculous, but for a child it is very serious. Therefore, as usual, one has to talk, tell, explain what a beautiful skirt is and which of the girls is fat and who is not.

Bans and secrets

I try to avoid comparisons, they do not need us. After all, if a child is self-confident, loves himself, his appearance and habits, then copying him to anything. Therefore, I do not cease to remind what kind of daughter I have is wonderful, but without any comparisons and attachment to the other children.

And no matter how much I want to say that Vanya reads faster, and Masha writes six pages a day just for practice, I try to control myself. And do not forget about the mighty word but, which I often use as an argument. Mom, Dima has no mistakes in dictation, but I have one! – But you think faster than him!

Do not believe it, but the desire to imitate can be used to their advantage. The main thing is to do it very rarely and unnoticed. Thus, I finally achieved that my daughter began to wear shorts and sometimes even eat fish.

Of course, the child’s authority must be in copying and there’s nothing wrong with it. Provided that imitation is not blind, and not an attempt to thoughtlessly repeat other people’s words and actions. As elsewhere, a measure is needed here. After all, there is nothing wrong with striving to study well. Only this should be done not because Oksana studies well, but because it is right, and you need to be literate and smart.

In addition, attempts to imitate are not always successful, which translates into insults and complexes. Especially if you spice up the situation with thoughtless phrases that will finish the child, and there is no question of any self-assessment and individuality.

Summing up the above, I want to once again encourage parents to listen, hear, follow, encourage, praise and support their children. After all, if the child is confident in himself and his abilities, he will not have the desire to change himself to be like someone. And our parental task is precisely to educate children in such a way as not to lose or miss the talents, inclinations and peculiarities of his personality.

Are your children trying to copy other children or adults? What do you think about that?

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