The crisis of adolescence is one of the most difficult in a person’s life. Only a few overcome it without harming the nerves of others and their own.
Everyone has heard about puberty, hormonal changes, emotions going wild because of them (remember your first love?) And other joys. But there are two aspects about which to talk for some reason is not accepted.
One of the main problems puberty is the imposition of parental memories of their own transitional age and the aggravation of related problems. We can say that everyone is going through a crisis: both parents and children.
At this moment, a person is at a fork in several aspects of his life and has only two ways of development: negative, about which everyone has heard so much, and comfortable.
The negative is that the child becomes a rebel, denies everything that was with him before. Norms, principles, if not overthrown, then questioned. With him hard and unpleasant. Sometimes – even impossible. But such a child moves forward, creating a new world.
Another difficulty of this development path is another change of authorities: the teacher loses its value, parents are often perceived as a world evil, not having the right to vote, and friends become the main ones in life – those are the worst campaigns.
A convenient (I cannot call it positive) option is the opposite: the child seems to fall into the past, returns to childhood. She recollects what interested him before, becomes obedient, mamsik, as people say.
On the one hand – good. On the other hand, it will not learn independence now; it will never learn. Own opinion has never appeared in people as a result of conciliation.