At the age of 7, the parents of the child will face another test, a new age crisis. By this time, the family has already developed stereotypes of behavior and relationships with the baby. And everything would be great if it were not for one thing: againthe child is changing! Again old methods and proven solutions are useless!
Moreover, parents are also in a stressful area: it’s time to get the child ready for school … How to wear it? Which backpack to buy? What kind of shoes? So that no worse than others looked. Can he cope with his studies? Will contact with classmates? And with the teachers? So many questions!
There is a strongest dissonance: just yesterday, small and cute, today the child has abruptly become an adult – a schoolboy. But the worst thing is that this feeling is stretched in time: in some cases, parents treat a seven-year-old as a schoolboy, in others – as a baby, impose their opinion on him.
Yes, and how not to impose, if yesterday is kind, calm and obedient the child began to be rude and snap? Rejoice. Enjoy the fact that your child normally passes this age crisis. Yes Yes exactly! Of course, you should not look at it with tenderness through your fingers, but you shouldn’t be too nervous either.
Everything is explained very simply: if earlier the emotion generated the action and each act was a continuation of the child’s self-perception, now in the middle wedged new link – intelligence. Only now the little man is beginning to understand and accept such concepts as I am angry, I am distressed, I like it. Before that, I recall, he only felt, without realizing. You can even say that the child learns to re-sense and express emotions.
Just at this age people gain self-esteem, good luck and defeat begin to be perceived in a complex. It is very important now to support the child, to help overcome the first difficulties in school. Preschooler will not give the value of 10 losses in a row, one win will eclipse all negative emotions. Schoolboy – think of himself as a loser.
The emergence of self-esteem also provokes a desire to change the environment: comparing yourself with other people, the child begins to draw parallels and demand equal treatment. For example, in the case of video movies: you decided to watch some kind of movie, and, to put it mildly, it’s too early for him. If a preschooler could come to terms with this state of affairs, then the seven-year-old will violently defend his rights. Even if the film is not at all interesting to him.
The most dangerous moment in the crisis of 7 years is change of authority. Until this age, parents were the whole world. If mom said something, that’s true. Now parents are fading into the background. The leader becomes the teacher – as he said, so be it. Teacher king and god in this case for of all schoolchildren. This leads to unqualified teacher, only once allowed himself to call the child a fool at the class or even let go of some clever joke, can ruin a child’s life until the end of school.
Then the children will not remember why Vasya is a fool, and Petya is a loser. And the teacher himself will only spread his hands, saying that he has nothing to do with it. Therefore, it is necessary to choose the first teacher very carefully, using all possible sources of information, and focus primarily on his attitude towards children. A confident child will overcome any difficulties!
The crisis of 7 years is considered the mildest among children’s age crises. As Carlson said calm only calm. Changing stereotypes of behavior in time, supporting a child and expanding his zone of independence will help to survive this time quickly and without loss.
In any case, remember that regardless of age, a person needs bodily contact and words of love, tenderness. AND you are the best parents for this particular child.. therefore you will succeed. Required.