Sometime in childhood, a girlfriend told an interesting episode. She rested in Artek and in one detachment with her there was a girl from Germany. In her suitcase lay condoms, bought and laid before her mom. This then greatly surprised my girlfriend, if not shocked – the German girl was thirteen years old. Together we shook – and we were about fourteen years old and began to talk about something completely different. I remembered this story already in the hospital when I was giving birth to my second child.
There, in the maternity hospital, in the same room with me lay a young mommy, who gave birth to a son. She was thirteen years old. The fact that she is pregnant, the girl and her parents learned for a period of seven months, when the girl lost consciousness, and was examined by an ambulance doctor.
Although the girl was actively involved in sports, she did not add to the health of her pregnancy – her kidneys were denied before giving birth, she had a cesarean section. She perceived the child as something annoying, she even wanted to give it up, but at the last moment the mother of the girl adopted her grandson and took both from the maternity hospital – both the daughter and the adopted son.
The early sex life of minor children has always been a problem – and ten, and twenty, and thirty years ago. And here it’s not only and not so much the promiscuity, poor upbringing, the desire to be adults and other reasons, but the hormonal storm raging in the body of a teenager. Now I think that the German mother was right – it is impossible to constantly control the child, it is useless to prohibit.
And to share with your teenager your knowledge, to warn about the consequences of sex and how to avoid them, you must. After all, the consequences can be not only unwanted pregnancy, but also sexually transmitted infections, sometimes incurable – hepatitis, AIDS, syphilis.
And it is necessary to talk not when your son or daughter has bitten off a hefty piece from the forbidden fruit, but much, much earlier. Do not scare and frighten, but try to talk honestly and frankly. And certainly your child should know that in case of any unforeseen circumstances, he can always count on the help and support of parents. But this requires not just a good relationship with the child, but very trusting ones.