It is considered that a sociable and sociable child is wonderful. He easily makes contact with other children, does not bother with the team from boredom, is easier to lift, etc. My daughter is such a child. True, the last time I began to think – is it good? Can a daughter be too sociable?
As I noted above, sociable children easily join new teams and companies. For example, we had absolutely no problems in the garden or in the school. While the son of my girlfriend preferred to communicate only with my daughter, and with other children there is almost no.
Of course, she has friends and girlfriends with whom communication is more long and close, but other children are not deprived of attention. Only two months in the first class, and my Leah already knows not only his classmates, but also a lot of children from parallel and even senior classes.
Only I have time in the morning to greet the parents, whose children whose daughter defiantly shouts Hi! How are you ?, and at the same time I am whisper to explain: This is Anya, she is studying in 2-A class, and then Olya, she has the same folder as mine, that’s why we met!
Every day, Lia takes to the school some games, toys, and at the breaks she has time to change with other children the cards or figures missing for the complete collections. And if you don’t often interrogate the story about the past day from other children, mine gives you maximum information not only about yourself, but also about your friends. Who behaved like that, that he ate, than treated, who has the same caps, etc.
Probably, children should be so open, sociable, talkative, active. But sometimes I see the disadvantages of this behavior.
Firstly, as a girl, a daughter sometimes seems to me too sociable. The grandmother believes that the girl should not be like this; she should be modest and shy, and not so brisk and perky.
In part, I agree with my grandmother and try to explain to my daughter how to behave with boys. Although, maybe these are remnants of the past and women’s activity and initiative are not so bad anymore?
Maybe it is normal that a first grader has her own likes and preferences in the team. And, of course, how can a six-year-old child know how to express his feelings, is it worth to hide them, etc.?
Secondly, as a result of talkativeness, information leaks sometimes occur. Trying to appear more mature, the daughter shares her impressions about everything in the world. And this information is not always neutral. After all, there is no need for outsiders to know about our plans to go somewhere, buy something, etc. Yes, and sometimes boasting shows that I do not like either.
Of course, the best middle ground, who argues. But if you choose between a closed and sociable child, I would choose the second option. Still, childhood flies by quickly, so let her daughter associate it with friendship, communication, secrets and games.
I myself am quite sociable, it is difficult for me to be alone, not to share my thoughts, impressions, experiences. True, I have not so many friends as my daughter, but I have enough.
I think that excessive sociability is the result of an abundance of new impressions. School, first class, teachers, children, mode, dining – all this is new to the child, and she simply does not know how to get to know everything about how to behave better. And my task is to explain, tell, chew, show a personal example every day.
Do you think it is good for a child to be too sociable? How sociable are your children?