Children are the flowers of life, but sometimes I so much want these children to be quieter. They ate what was necessary, did not interfere with household chores, they were not capricious. To tell the truth, terribly exhausting. I just could not understand what he needed, why he behaves this way. Is home bad? He has nothing to play or I do not buy what he asks?
In the end, I broke down, my husband’s mood was spoiled, the child began to cry. And so – in a circle. Then she thought about it – is it all so? Of course, it happens, shout, take away a dangerous object. Who knows what would happen next, do not come to my mind a simple comparison – because children are like a mirror.
They reflect our mood, our emotions. She remembered how Misha, still quite tiny, smiled at my smile. I tried not to scream. Explain calmly but firmly. Spend more time with him, play. Ask to help me with household chores, and not show off from the kitchen.
Let him scatter flour, accidentally drop an egg or a potato, but is this a small price to pay for peace of mind? Or when he plays. Diligently draws something or constructor collects. After all, do not tear it off! Although the time and later, let it be better to play, otherwise just get angry.
Adults also do not like it when they are torn away from very important things? And the child does not have papers on work and they do not need to prepare dinner for the whole family. But it does not speak at all about their inaction. Just different needs, desires, goals.
I proposed an alternative – for example, not toys, but read a book for the night. He fell asleep in the crib, and there were no problems at all. What I understood for sure – the main thing is not to overdo it in your emotions. The child is not to blame for quarrels with the boss, with his beloved. He does not understand at all that I want a new dress or shoes, but there is no money.
All that he needs for a quiet life without whims is our love and care. Sensitivity to his desires. The desire not only to listen, but also to hear. To treat him as an equal, adult, able to make their small, but very important decisions. No need to go in front of him, as commander, it is better to go close, holding tightly by the hand.