Many modern parents can safely be called not even caring, but anxious. Moreover, their main idea, sometimes maniacal, is to make a child prodigy out of his beloved child.
I have a familiar family, who imagines that they have a special child, far ahead of other children in terms of mental development. I don’t even know how they managed to do this, but they gave him to the first grade when he was five years old!
Of course, the kid by that time already knew how to read, write a little, counted up to 20, and solved some simple examples. But today there are many such children. However, parents felt that their crumb was one in a million and sent him to school.
Needless to say that after a year of study, he is firmly ass in the category of laggards. At the same time, the child now has problems of a psychological nature. I do not know exactly the whole background, but they are observed by a psychologist.
So everything has its time, and do not have to run ahead of the locomotive. Of course, such situations are extreme and are rare. But here’s the parents ’desire to write down the child in all kinds of sections, to turn his day into a permanent time trouble – this happens very often.
Tutor called? Do you need it?
I myself have been tutoring for many years. My specialty is French. And I increasingly come across parents who are trying to impose this very French on their child.
I am often invited to work with a child who does not have this foreign language in the school curriculum. But the parents decided that the child should be developed comprehensively. And without French, these plans cannot be realized.
In most cases, I have heard from such, more often – moms, less often – dads, that, they say, they themselves dreamed of being able to express themselves in the language of Balzac and Voltaire, but that did not work out. For their unfulfilled dreams have to take the rap child.
And the motivation is completely absent. He doesn’t care that his parents didn’t work there. He already has problems above the roof, school, urgent, and then there is this hated French.
Tell me, how is it possible for a student to put in his head the basics of French grammar and vocabulary? Honestly, it is almost impossible. In fact, success in learning a foreign language is 70% dependent on the student and only 30% depends on the teacher.
Another thing, if a child has French – part of the school program. He is behind him, and parents want to pull up the child. Here the motivation of the latter is most often present. At least you can wake her up if you try. In such situations, I usually succeed.
Thus, before hiring a tutor, try to understand whether your child needs it, whether classes will become an unnecessary burden for him.
If a beloved son or dear daughter is mired in endless threes and twos, then try to clearly explain to him that tutoring is not a whim of the mother, but a necessary step not to stay for the second year, not to be among those who are always lagging behind, and so on. d. Parents know better what will spur their child to the desire to gain knowledge.
The trouble is that not every tutor will be the very desire to awaken. Unfortunately, the majority perceives private lessons as a chance to earn, no more. Worked out the stated hour and went home. And whether there was this hour productive or passed in empty – business is the tenth.
Believe me, it is. I have a wide circle of acquaintances from this fraternity. Many do not hesitate to share the secrets of productive oblaposhivaniya. Among the popular machinations – classes with too young children who still can’t really speak their language, as well as classes based on the principle of reading a book – have fled. What are the techniques there! Who needs them!
However, do not despair. And today there are good tutors who are ready for success. To help determine this will help some simple rules.
Where are good tutors?
A common myth is that a professional tutor is someone who works at a school. Far from it. And among school teachers there are true hacks who, in their professional activities, confine themselves to reading a textbook and performing exercises from it.
So do not rush to hire a school teacher. First test it. To do this, it is enough to attend several classes of your newly-fledged tutor with a child.
Sometimes tutors react negatively to the desire of the parent to sit in class. They find a lot of arguments against. They say that the child will not be able to relax, you will not be able to establish contact with him, the student will be distracted …
In fact, all this is nonsense. And a professional teacher has no reason to fear the presence of parents in the classroom. And you know, talking with your former classmates and discussing this moment, I noticed that the ardent opponents of the spies are those who have not studied very successfully, treated the school mediocre, and the Methodics as a subject is, so, in principle, careless. I think you made the appropriate conclusions.
At the same time, your presence should not be of the following character: I sat down, thought about the eternal, and conducted a tutor. I understand that for a person who is not well-versed in teaching, it is difficult to understand how well a teacher conducts his lesson.
But believe me, this is not so difficult to do. Notice how the teacher begins the lesson. If he immediately rushes into explaining a new topic or performing complex exercises, then this is not a very good indicator.
The lesson must begin with warming up, something simple, banal. It may even be a conversation about anything. The main thing is to prepare the child, to set it up, to distract from those things that he did before the lesson. In the case of foreign languages, such a warm-up is a phonetic warm-up, in other words, reading, and not texts, but syllables, words, simple sentences.
In addition, the lesson should be structured and diverse. If your teacher does the same type of exercise with your child all the time, this is wrong. Get the tutor.
And, of course, it is also important whether the tutor could find a common language with your child. Look at the baby. Is he comfortable? Is it not closed? Is he not shy?
If you see that a son or daughter feels uncomfortable in company with a teacher, it is better to refuse his services if he is at least three times professional. Indeed, in such a situation, success cannot be achieved even by a world-renowned professor.