Our son is 12 years old. I began to notice that learning interested him less and less. Sometimes they don’t do their homework at all. In the evening I come home from work, the son in a hurry sits at the textbooks. And maybe even until the night they do not, and then either I or my husband sit with him until he completes the task. And this happens quite often lately.
After reading the smart books, I came to the conclusion that time was lost. But still, I realized that in some cases, it is quite possible to return a teenager’s interest in learning.
1. You need to understand your child.
Our interest in learning has disappeared for a reason. I discovered several reasons that led my son to this turn of events. The key was such a reason – our son was tired. We overloaded it from childhood with circles and extra classes.
He went to music school from preschool age. Then the swimming circle joined, then football, additional classes in English and computer science. Now I understand that such an adult load will not stand.
Last year, our son graduated from music school and threw a swimming circle. And, apparently, he decided that, apart from English and computer science, nothing would be useful to him. He does his lessons on time only in these two subjects.
2. Personal example, you need to show the desire for the best.
Our son also said that he really wants to become an adult more quickly. He thinks that parents have no worries or additional tasks after work, because we do not enlighten our children in the problems of adulthood.
Now, after work, the husband intentionally opens the laptop and works on the project for an hour. Usually the husband did it later in his room. I began to be interested in news in the economic sphere, voicing that the boss gave such a task.
And our son began to understand that the life of adults is based on constant improvements. Now my son sees that even at home, both mom and dad continue to work.
3. Attention and care of parents – the key to success in school.
We began to pay attention to the son more often. At the weekend, the husband plays football with him. Sometimes we go out into nature together. For family dinners, we ask our son how he was doing and what interesting things happened during the day.
I realized that I do not need to get hung up and overload the child. He still has a lot in adult life! And our son became interested in studying again. And yet, we refused extra classes – he himself has such a clever girl, it turns out!
How do you encourage your children to learn?