My sister never loved learning. She was ready for anything, just to not go to school. And from that very moment she had unpleasant impressions about her studies.
Now she is a loving mom. She regrets her son. He says that he understands how he does not like to learn. On weekends, he tries to captivate him with merry-go-rounds and entertainment centers. So she advised one of the girlfriends. He buys more and more new variety of computer toys – Dad plays with him. And I do not understand her! Well, how can you?
Since childhood, Maxim was drawn to the books. He learned to read very early. I remember how he re-read all the books in the house and asked for his birthday to buy him not a toy, but a book. He liked children’s fairy tales, and stories, and educational literature.
With the accumulated money, he bought DIY magazines. He read, master. Once he independently made a bird feeder. He hung it in the yard and poured seeds there. All the neighbors praised him. And my sister was proud of her son.
The first to thirst for knowledge was noticed by teachers in kindergarten. He sought to learn something new, often asked questions. He was called why.
Also, Maxim often set up experiments. My sister even bought a children’s mini-lab. There are so many interesting things! Maxim was very pleased! He brought leaflets and twigs, for a long time considered them. That was so entertaining his childhood.
School began – childhood ended
And then began the preparation for school. And then my sister decided that the child should be helped. She began to saturate his life with amusements, sincerely wishing that his child had ended his childhood so early. And Maxim’s interest in knowledge subsided.
When Max went to the first class, he studied medium. My sister was sometimes angry and even grabbed the belt! And the tribe became afraid to go to school. He was afraid that he could not cope, it would not work.
Such a reaction was provoked by the attitude in the family. He was afraid that at home he would be scolded again. Maxim became more closed. Never asked to help someone with homework. Estimates have become worse. And my sister first punished, then she felt sorry for herself and carried out her homework herself, so as not to waste her son’s childhood to study.
So it turned out that with such an attitude the sister herself beat off the desire to learn from her son. And Maxim is no longer interested in anything. And does not read books. Imagine how things have changed in just a couple of years?
I’m sorry nephew. I try to support him. I am trying to bring him back to his former interests. I give the fascinating books. While Max responds inactive. Now he often wants to play a computer toy than to read something. But I hope that in adolescence can still change!
Do your children learn with or without desire? What mistakes did you make when helping your children? Whose bad advice did you hear?