Recently, rereading another article about typical stages of development of family relations, I was surprised by a simple and, in my opinion, obvious thing – why the school program does not provide for family education? Not in the sense of mandatory following the prescribed rules, but in a purely educational plane.
Global and depth problems
Everybody remembers the statistics of family relations by heart – and there is no need to look into the Internet. 50% of contracted marriages fall apart. Of the re-prisoners, 60% are already falling apart and so on. 80% of serious crimes are committed on a domestic basis – spouses in the heat of passions are pounding each other, sometimes even falling to death.
I didn’t have to face the last one, thank God. But my short family life, I laid myself to the bones. Then I compared it with the available information on family relationships and was surprised at how prosaic and typical we came to the final breakdown of relationships.
It turns out that from generation to generation in building relationships, we happily dance on the same rake. And for some reason, few people come to mind to tell and explain to the coming generation what to do with this rake.
The maximum that can be expected is a warning about the presence of such a rake: oh, after the wedding, everything will be different; they got married, and then you will be divorced; and the child will be born – here you are! What about us? We are sure that we will ride with this love on this rake – and we will not notice.
And time comes, and begins. Someone who cuts veins, someone who is hysterical, someone finds the strength to survive one of the truly deep shocks in life.
But if you know at least the basics of building relationships, you could save a lot of nerves, strength and families. Why is this not being taught in school? After all, it is from this age that it is necessary to establish a culture of communication with people, not only with the opposite sex. Instead, we are taught philosophy, the basics of economics, local history.
I don’t know, maybe now something has changed in the school curriculum, but when I studied, there was no hint of such information. And how could she be useful to me not only in family life, but in life in general! I think that on these subjects one hundred percent attendance would be.
What does not necessarily introduce a new item. All this would fit perfectly into the course of the same BC or valeology. But for some reason, the entire educational system is aimed at studying the outside world, and the internal one is at the mercy of ourselves. And here we are, like blind kittens, filling ourselves with bumps and hurting others, looking for the right path to a happy future.
And what is most interesting, according to my observations, this path has its own laws of development. That is, it is possible to clearly define the general principles of building relationships and self-development. If I had known about them 20 years earlier, I would now have achieved much more in life.
Why is that? Is the state not interested in mentally healthy members of society? After all, the family is really the cell of society, despite the mothball spirit of this statement. Why not teach children the basics of its formation?