I remember how in my youth I had some kind of fear and prejudice against children with various diseases and hereditary pathologies, such as cerebral palsy or something like that. But life pushed me personally with such children, and I completely changed my attitude towards them.
Earlier, when I saw a sick child, I had a strange feeling of awkwardness. How so? I am healthy, I can walk, run, jump, but this child is not. I felt ashamed that my possibilities were much wider than his.
With friends, we have repeatedly discussed this issue. They felt very similar. Simultaneously with the feeling of embarrassment, there was still the fear of not saying something or not doing something so as not to offend, not to hurt both the child and his parents.
I looked with admiration at educators and health workers who worked with children with disabilities, but deep down I was convinced that I myself would never have been able to do so.
However, I was wrong. It so happened that I began to study first one boy with cerebral palsy, and then a whole group of such children.
They are almost the same as we, just a little bit kinder!
At that time I was working in the center of additional education. One day, the mother of a boy with disabilities approached me and asked me to work with her son in computer literacy training. After some thought, I agreed.
I immediately liked Max. It was an unusually smiling little boy who looked practically healthy. The disease was given out in him only a small squint and some speech and motor inhibition.
Classes were individual. At first I was worried, but as we met, communication became more and more free and easy.
Thereby, I gradually ceased to attach great importance to limited opportunities. There is – well, there is, we will take them into account, but we will not dwell on them.
I tried to speak a little slower than with ordinary children, not to skip the logical chains in the explanations, I devoted more time to consolidate computer skills, but in general, our classes were the same as with ordinary children.
A year later, I was assigned to conduct classes with a whole group of children with disabilities. And it was easy to make contact again, but, unlike communication with healthy students, I noted that these guys are much kinder and can be more grateful and more friendly.
And how much joy there was when for the first time it turned out that I myself could make a presentation or a computer mini newspaper! These children can truly appreciate the present and experience deep feelings.
Vladik is a full member of the family
At the end of the picture of my acquaintance with children with disabilities, I will talk about one more family. The eldest girl, healthy, went to my study group. One day, I accidentally met her on the street: she was carrying a boy in a wheelchair.
So I met her brother Vladik. The boy impressed me so much that I still remember him with an amazing feeling.
There were absolutely no negative emotions and negative attitudes towards anything at all. Vladik radiated one hundred percent good nature and peace.
For several years I have been watching the life of this family, and she always delighted me. At home, they did not lisp with Vladik, talked on an equal footing, as well as with other children. And there were in this family … four children!
I wondered how my mother was not afraid to give birth to the third and fourth children after Vladik, who was the second of the children. But the risk was justified – these kids were born healthy.
And Vladik himself is in the family – as if such a cheerful sun! Always smiling, rejoicing guests, new events, any attention from the side. And no offense or bitterness.
Although the reasons for the experiences he has a lot. Many times he was in hospitals: due to immobility, various diseases of the skeletal system, bedsores, etc. developed. This is painful, but Vladik is used to enduring and not giving in to despondency.
I do not pretend to know all the nuances of life and work with children with disabilities. From the outside, everything can seem much more rosy than it really is.
I think the moms of these children have a very difficult time. On their shoulders lay much more trouble to care than the mothers of healthy children.
But I am almost sure that it is necessary to treat children with disabilities as simply as possible, usually so that they feel no worse than others. And in return you will receive genuine thanks and sincerity of the relationship.