Problems in communicating with classmates: reasons and solutions
Even among the first-graders there is a division into popular and unpopular classmates.
Well, if a child is simply ignored or tolerated, but much worse if dislike manifests itself with aggression and ridicule.
There are children who are not at all worried about this situation in their closed world, but there are schoolchildren who suffer greatly from the impossibility to change the state of things.
You can influence the situation in junior school, when communication between peers is still at the level of joint games, and the composition of the permanent groups (circles of friends) is still unclear. At this age, children listen to adults, to the opinion of parents and teachers, they expect support and help from them.
If the child does not manage to correct the communicative problems to the senior classes, the same thing awaits him in student’s and in work collectives.
The main causes of unfriendliness:
- physical defects or features of appearance;
- low intellectual level, lag in learning;
- giftedness of the child;
- untidy appearance, non-compliance with hygiene norms;
- Shyness or, conversely, obsessive desire for leadership;
- the child pins, trying to attract attention;
- low income of parents;
- hyperopece parents;
- transfer of the child to another school or other class;
- ethnic and national differences.
Natalia Grigorenko, psychologist: If in the kindergarten or in another school there were no problems with communication with classmates, then in the new class there were certain circumstances that provoke the child's protective mechanisms. Daily ask how the day passed at school, let him draw pictures on the topic My school, My class, My school friends, My first teacher, My best friend, I and class, etc. Of course, not all at once, but gradually. Ask him what he painted, depicted in black, brown or gray, what size, in which part of the sheet. The drawings will show you the problem.
Of course, there can be much more reasons for not developing relations in the classroom. But you need to believe in your child, talk with him as much as possible about his life and possible problems. Help him find friends, because the support of relatives and peers is an important component of social adaptation.
Be attentive to your child. Good luck!
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