Often mothers complain: He doesn’t listen at all! I have to repeat the request several times! She doesn’t hear me !. Despite the fact that each child is individual, has its own character and mode of behavior, disobedience is still partly the fault of the parents.
The more of them, the harder the baby lives. Imagine that at every step you get straightened out, that you cannot step into a puddle, shoot a panama, climb on a swing, etc. Understand, this is a natural process of knowing the world and defining your own boundaries.
The forbidden fruit is sweet – that is why babies tend to turn eggs into porridge or stick their fingers into a socket. And the task of parents is to monitor the safety of their children.
Therefore, the number of prohibitions should be minimized – leave only those that protect the child’s life from danger. As for the rest, it is long and tedious to explain, repeat and talk.
It is not surprising that the child does not obey in the family, where mom calls dad to eat and hears in response now I’m coming!, Another 5 minutes !. And the fact that the mother does not respond to such an answer is a sign to the child that this is the normal state of affairs.
If you are demanding discipline from a child, then why not observe it yourself? Or explain to the kid why you eat apples, and he soup, for example.
The more you are silent, the more the child is confident that your requirements are just a whim. Tell your baby what is fraught with his disobedience. I believe that deception and invent in this case is not worth it. Yes, showing a pigeon crushed by a machine is not the best option, but it works, it is checked;)
After all, in fact, the police do not take the children into the bags, and under the bed does not live a terrible monster that scares kids who do not go to bed on time.
Explain that if the child runs away from the mother, he will be lost, and if he runs out on the road, he will fall under the car. Some (relatively safe) outcomes have to be implemented.
After the daughter chose dinner cartoons, she had to eat cold food. But the daughter of my girlfriend stopped eating cookies in the parent’s bed only after the mother personally cut several bagels into her bed.
Activate your words and warnings. And if you know that you will not go home yourself, if the child does not leave the playground, then you should not be unfounded. Once we left in the sandbox the daughter’s forms for the beads, because she did not want to collect them – it worked.
Adhere to your principles of education – if your child is forbidden to paint on the walls, but this means that he is forbidden to do it at a party, and even on holidays.
Do not mislead the kid – if dad does not allow, then this means that mom is against, and vice versa. Naturally, we are talking about obviously wrong actions.
There are hardly any children who, from the first, happily fulfill any request from their parents. Rather, they happen, but they were hardly born that way – this is the result of the constant educational work of the parents.
The family should have a clear hierarchy – the parents are the main parents, and the child obeys and fulfills their instructions, and not vice versa.
What do you think is the reason why a child does not obey?