When I gave birth to a child, I did not think about the fact that once he would be bold. Naturally, like every loving mom, I raised my daughter in love and full confidence, but apparently, there came a moment that I should survive. It’s all about age. Now her daughter is almost 4 years old, she is very cute, but it can also be unbearable.
I really do not want such traits as audacity, arrogance, bad manners, to manifest in the future. Therefore, I decided to understand this issue in detail.
Cheeky behavior – This is a brazen, shameless behavior, where the child allows himself a lot of excess. He can shout, and snarl, and fight. In behavior, it can be seen with the naked eye: his words, the answers to your questions or requests, the conversation with adults.
The reasons for this behavior may be several:
1. Inconsistency education. In most cases, moms are mild. We can shout, curse, but after a minute we take it in our arms and already regret. And our children feel it and then use it. Here, for example, I scold my daughter, bring up, but my mother-in-law always immediately regrets her, not allowing her to learn a lesson and draw conclusions.
Therefore, my daughter can behave as she pleases. I have ensured that no one would climb into the upbringing of my children, I am a mother, and I myself know better how to raise them. As for me, in order to give birth to children, to themselves and raise, and not rely on someone else’s help.
2. Example of adults. Needless to say that our children, like sponges, absorb all the information and our every action? They, following the example of adults, also behave in kindergarten, at school, on the street, with other people. I am convinced of this every day.
My daughter, as soon as I gave birth to her brother, I learned how to change diapers and properly hold a baby, however, she walked with a baby doll. But this I lead to the fact that if we do everything correctly, it means that the child will behave in the same way.
In families where adults constantly swear, children believe that this is the norm of behavior. Therefore, in their family, they repeat the fate of their parents.
I try to avoid this in every way, and if my husband and I swear, it is not in the presence of children. They see us kissing, hugging, we indulge together, and I try to tell my daughter and son pleasant, affectionate words: You are my good girl, My you are a hare, lovely, talented, clever.
3. Lack of attention and love. If the child feels slighted, deprived, he begins to suffer from it. He is looking for an opportunity to throw it out in the form of a scream, swearing. So he relieves his internal tension, and his screams here as a discharge.
It is necessary to communicate more with the baby: try to watch cartoons and films together, go on a visit at the weekend, sculpt with plasticine, make crafts, there can be plenty of examples. Co-interesting pastime is very close!