Unfortunately, there are a lot of answers to this question. But today I want to tell only about the psychological aspect that is not related to the physical health of the child.
Psychologists, books and TV constantly say to all of us: Do not yell at children. But, easy to say – hard to do. Agree that sometimes just hold back no strength. Especially when the child’s behavior becomes the last straw in a string of bad events. So it happened with my close friend.
One of these days, she called me in tears and said that her son was writing about himself in the kindergarten during his nap. While this has never happened to him.
I tried to calm her down, said that it was not worth crying and this sometimes happens with children. But she interrupted my speech and said that she knew the reason.
She told me that yesterday, just before going to sleep, she screamed at her son, so that it became very bad, and her husband was afraid that she would hurt him in general. A friend said that by and large she had invested in this op her offense on the whole world, on an endless lack of sleep, on a goat husband, and so on. When I imagined what a soul cry it was, I, too, felt uneasy.
A friend says, the child tossed all night and muttered something. It seems that he slept shallowly. At night, everything was fine at home, I got up myself several times in the toilet. And here, in the kindergarten in the afternoon, the baby apparently fell asleep deeply and described himself.
The boy’s mom is fully confident that the child has described himself from fright, from the negative energy that came from her. That he was scared and screaming, and how much a mother can change dramatically. Probably, he still felt like the worst son in the world.
The boy wrote a few more days, then everything went away, but no one knows what was left in the children’s head and soul.
Reinterpreting the conversation with a friend, I recalled that I had a similar situation. Only the daughter was written not in a dream, but during the day during the game.
I remember, then grandmother said: I just started playing. But now I think it was a reaction to my cry. Unfortunately, everything is not as smooth with my nerves as I would like. Usually the baby cries and shouts back at me when I swear.
But it seems that exactly when mom has a breakdown, accumulated, a sharp ejection of negative emotions, the children feel something special – horror, fear. They hurry, and then it comes out of them this way. And for mom it is a bell: Mom, be careful what you do !!
If suddenly your child described himself in a dream or reality, and there are no apparent reasons for this, look for them. Maybe it’s not about you, because there are other people around. Ask, find out from the child himself, look for the reason in order to know from what or from whom it is worth protecting your child.