Even in ancient times, mothers did not refuse help from outside. There were also nannies, and wet-winners, and a governess. Now the nanny is not a very cheap pleasure, so often young mothers resort to the help of relatives, and not everyone can entrust the baby to a stranger in fact, albeit with an appropriate education.
I wrote about it in detail in a separate topic. She is a person who helps me more than all the other relatives combined. Mom is retired, but works remotely, sometimes for half a day. However, because of my age, I do not insist on active walks with my daughter, but in quiet games – with dolls, reading books, joint handicraft, she has no equal.
Grandma always cooks her favorite daughter pancakes and cooks the most delicious borsch in the world. Sometimes I can’t pick up my daughter from the kindergarten, in this case my mother helps me, since the garden is in the yard of her house.
Also, if necessary, she can take her granddaughter to extra classes and even sew an outfit to the matinee. Sometimes we leave a daughter with my parents for the night, to which they are extremely happy;)
He is a lover of active games and physical activity. In winter, he gladly rolls his granddaughter on a sled, and in the warm season – he teaches to pull up on horizontal bars and run for long distances.
If necessary, she can guard the baby’s sleep during my absence or sit with her at home for several hours (again, doing active ball games and training somersaults, for example).
Now, when her daughter is almost completely serving herself, she eats, dresses, goes to the toilet, if necessary, the grandfather may be with her all day, but such a case has not yet happened.
Our company of moms with children of about the same age was formed three years ago. During this time we have become very friends and without a doubt can briefly entrust our children to each other, especially since they are very friendly with each other.
It often happens that working mothers do not have time to pick up a child from kindergarten or they need to visit a doctor, go to the salon, which is problematic with children. In such cases, we insure each other.
At the time when I was preparing for the operation, and my mother was inundated with work, some friends often went for a walk with my daughter or received her as a guest, for which many thanks to them.
As they say, you want to do well – do it yourself. It was this principle that I followed from the moment my daughter was born. Perhaps this is not right, because in this way I actually refused to help myself, or rather, did not require it.
On the mother forums I often saw advice, like pretend to be sick, then my husband would feed and walk with the baby, he would also wash the floors, but somehow there was no desire to follow them, why I don’t know.
My husband is from that large category of men who prefers children who speak and walk (like me, by the way). Therefore, his communication with his daughter began closer to two years.
However, I have a personal fad in this regard – well, I don’t like it, when an adult uncle (even if his own father) washes the ass of a little girl or changes her diaper, it doesn’t touch me at all. Yes, there are men about whom they say that he is doing everything, he would have had his chest, he would have fed him too, but our dad does not refer to them, which does not upset me completely.
I will not hide, we had a quarrel about descending with the daughter to the site, but I did not succeed in changing the situation, I had to change my attitude towards her. We have a great company and I love to walk with the child, combining a walk with socializing, which I always lack, a pleasant pastime.
During the walks, I rest, but if my dad goes for a walk with my daughter, I don’t get to rest, I immediately start cleaning for some reason. In general, we walk or three of us, or I’m with my daughter, or I’m with my husband.
Of course, the person is the strongest, and if I had no assistants, I would have managed it myself. But I am very glad that I have such wonderful assistants who provide freedom to my actions.
And who helps you with the children?