Even before the birth of my daughters, I noticed the whims of children in stores. I always sincerely believed that mom can soothe a child in any situation. The behavior of some parents seemed to me inadequate. How wrong I was …
Why is a baby crying?
I do not like to go shopping with children. Of course, we do not buy them all that their daughters can grab. But to explain why one or the other should not be bought, it tires me out. It’s easier for me to go to the store alone.
In addition, marketers help cleverly arrange the goods. As a result, what is in the zone of visibility of children, they need and interesting.
I try not to pay attention to other crying children. I consider parents to make comments tactless. However, not all the same opinion.
Mom, I want noodles!
Yes, yes, my daughters, as they see instant noodles, grab it and ask to buy. Where such a desire comes from – I don’t understand it. We bought it only on the road, when we went by train for two days. Since then, the phrase buy soup has become very frequent.
Just the other day we went with the younger daughter to buy food, and then, as luck would have it, we got this noodles. She grabs a pack and screams for me to buy it. Persuasion does not help, attempts to replace the noodles with something tasty, too … They put it in the basket, but then I carefully removed it on the way, and at the checkout my daughter did not notice the trick.
Oh, how embarrassing I am at such moments. I don’t know why, in principle, I don’t care what others think. But it is not enough pleasant in such whims.
I want a melon
In principle, the vagaries in the stores for us are not permanent, but I remember them very well. Here is another case in the fruit pavilion.
I must say that on that day we went for vegetables to stew. The money was very close, so I was planning to buy only onions, carrots, tomatoes. But we had a lot of fruit in the fridge. But, as you know, eating at home is not interesting.
And here we go to the store, I, of course, go straight to the bow, and my child to the melons. And loudly declares: Mom, buy a melon. I calmly explained to her that there were fruits in the refrigerator at home. She seemed to have calmed down, but after a couple of minutes she began to repeat again that she wanted a melon.
I, not paying attention, chose the bow. And then I hear a voice: Well, what a mother, a child cannot buy a melon for a child !. I have plenty of calm, so I said nothing.
But the woman did not let up. And a few more times I made a remark. As a result, I could not remain silent and asked to closely monitor their diet, as well as indulge the whims of her children. From me behind. And my daughter
I calmed down too.
How to deal with the whims?
For me, this question and now remains relevant. Every time I act depending on the circumstances. I can afford to give up the slack and buy what they want.
But most often I explain that at the moment we don’t need what they want. Offer an alternative or buy it later. It works. Distraction of children to another subject well helps out.
But sometimes you have to ignore the tantrums. It always seems to me that this is the worst option, but effective. It is very difficult to cope with yourself and your emotions at such moments. Especially if others try to interfere.
While I do not know the exact answer to this question. And how do you cope with the vagaries of your children in stores?