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Where do children’s fears and complexes or learn to keep their mouths shut, preschoolers

A person has a sense of fear. Where our fears, to understand the psychologists. But the nature of some children’s fears can definitely be called myself. I’m talking about the fears of their children. My son is afraid of many things, and as a child she was afraid of her daughter – because of my inability to keep my mouth shut.

Sometimes it’s better to keep emotions


Well, how does a small child know that you need to be afraid of a frog? Yes, and what we face this harmless little animal? Jumps to itself, catches midges. It does not threaten, but … it is so slippery and nasty!

I myself am afraid of frogs, worms and other crawling, slippery and jumping. If a frog appears next to me, I rarely can restrain myself from screaming. So why be surprised that my son, at the beginning of this summer, when the wahs were actively hanging out under his feet, at the sight of each one, he jumped into our hands with a cry: I am afraid of a frog!

Also with my daughter was. She stepped on the path of the worm, but I could not help it: Foo! Of course, the daughter began to cry in fright and asked for her hands.

Our fears


I wondered: what kind of fears do we have or just a special attitude to something that we can pass on to our child? What are we programming it for?

one. My husband does not like dogs. I don’t intend to understand the reasons, but I don’t want him to demonstrate his dislike for his son.

2 I am afraid of getting fat, and, therefore, I am laying down a negative attitude towards fullness in children. This does not mean that I should not strive for a good figure, only to openly demonstrate how I don’t like my belly, it’s not worth it.

I myself, thanks to adults, in my childhood had a huge complex then still because of thinness. I constantly heard these oohs addressed to me and here you are: I could not walk in nylon pantyhose because I was embarrassed by my thin legs and wept because of offensive nicknames.

As a teenager, I even drank some pills to get better. Fortunately, it did not go far, I did not have time to harm my health.

3 My husband’s father was bald. Somewhere I heard that sons inherit this feature. I’m still waiting, that the moment is not far, the husband will start to go bald. It is good that the son still does not understand this, otherwise he would already know for sure that baldness is bad. But rarely, what man avoids this fate. And here you are – ready complex.

This list goes on and on, and everyone will have it. Just not really, we think about our fears. Moreover, we do not think that we teach children to be afraid of the same.

Of course, you need to be afraid. But, real dangers.

How correct?


If I kept my emotions in check, it might be just interesting for my son to watch the frog. I think that the fucking of adults for worms, spiders and other animals drives the child into some kind of framework, we show that they need to be afraid. But this is just an animal world.

I decided – I will correct my mistakes. You know, when after rain the earthworms appear here and there, for me to walk past them is a test. Next time, I’ll just show my son this natural phenomenon, and I’m keeping silence about that which is unpleasant for me. Let me be scared, but not necessarily my child should be scared.

Do you know how to control your fears of a child? And what are your children afraid of?

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