I am a mother of a wonderful daughter, who is only 3 years old. I communicate with her as with an adult. Many familiar mummies, and my relatives, do not understand me. They speak with their daughter in an unnatural voice, use petting-diminutive words that annoy me a lot.
And in the courtyard we have some mothers, even with much older children, talk like babies. In general, I am surprised how their children learned to speak normally when mothers only speak mi-mi and usi-pusi to them? 🙂
My daughter at the age of 3 is well aware of what adults are saying to her. Sometimes she even understands what a child should not understand at her age. And I know that there are a few phrases that even a baby shouldn’t say. This is verified by me personally.
1. What are you a child ?.
I realized that such a phrase or something similar to it could lower my daughter’s self-esteem. The same effect has phrases that she is a slob or a slob, or that she has a terrible character. My daughter is very responsive to these words. I spoke such phrases in my hearts, but I didn’t think about the consequences at all.
For example, I remember how my mother told me that everyone has children as children, and I am somehow abnormal. And I had a complex for a very long time. I have always tried to look at others and try to do as they are, just to become normal.
Moreover, my mother says that I could not remember this because she scolded me so much in the sandbox when I poured the sand in my pockets and brought it home to make a sandbox for my dolls.
2. We cannot buy it now, we have no money now.
I believe that the child should not delve into the financial difficulties of the parents. Of course, I don’t buy anything my daughter wants. For example, if she looked at the next doll, I say that we will not buy it, and argue my point of view.
For example, I say that we already have a similar one, or that this doll is not beautiful enough, and we will definitely find better. Surprisingly, we are not at all familiar with the tantrums in the stores.
3. You’re a girl !.
I believe that this phrase can not be said. If my daughter wants to climb trees and play football, then let her play. She has such an age that it is interesting to try absolutely everything. Yes, she walks in dresses and bows. She sees how her mother brings beauty and tries to be beautiful herself. But I also buy her clothes and sports style so that she can play sports freely. This helps me to develop versatility and not to impose stereotypes.
And what phrases you do not tell your kiddies?