Главная 7 Preschoolers 7 What love spoils the child, preschoolers

What love spoils the child, preschoolers

At the time of our grandmothers, it was believed that the more we love our child, the better we do for him. Now this parenting option is also popular with our mothers and grandmothers. But as they say in the Ukrainian proverb: Scho zanadto, that is not good! (Busting is not good).

Not all love can affect a child positively. Most recently, I wrote a topic where I spoke at the expense of various mistakes in parenting. Today I would like to continue this topic and write about different types of love. When one or another of its kind can harm a growing personality.

Unfulfilled dreams of parents

This kind of love is manifested in the fact that parents are trying through a child to translate into reality their own desires and fantasies. Such parents certainly love their children, but are they doing the right thing?

In childhood I was not forced to do what my mother or grandmother would like. I was given the right to choose the circles I attended (dances, choir and piano). In spite of the fact that my mother had been studying at a music school for 7 years, she did not force me to go to the piano, I was engaged in dancing.

But my grandfather, who graduated from Narhoz (now KNEU them. V. Getman), was absolutely sure that I need to study there. At that time, I wanted to study as a designer, since I consider myself a creative person and very poorly versed in exact sciences. In the end, I studied where my grandfather said.

Now my diplomas of a financier and a master’s degree are sadly in a box, and my work now has nothing to do with numbers. Moreover, it was not very interesting for me to study political history, higher mathematics and all sorts of similar disciplines.

I know a lot of cases when children were forced to do what the child himself didn’t like. The question is – is it worth imposing your personal interests on the child? It is necessary first of all to think about how this imposition will affect the child in the future.


For example, the mother of a violinist sends her son to learn to play the violin, and her son wants to play football. As a result, grows up zaturkanny and weak character people who will be very hard to spin in adulthood. Options for the development of events abound.

I do not see anything bad

Every child needs attention, love and unconditionally physical contact with parents. This topic is actually quite ticklish. I recently read an article about how the father unknowingly seduced his daughter. And did not even know about it. Imagine?

Sometimes, loving parents, especially those who often embrace and kiss their children, are raised in this way by sexually abnormal individuals in the future.

Excessive sense of ownership

This kind of love is quite common. I would call it a subspecies of love, which I described first. Sometimes parents consider their child their personal thing, not thinking about what will happen to the child next.

Of course, in the first years of life, we take great care of growing children. But over time, these manifestations should decline. Those parents who do not give grown-up children the freedom of choice and overprotectly raise future mother’s sons and independent ladies.

Recently, my friend told a story about how a mother exploits her raised son in arranging her personal life and in building a house. Of course, children should help their parents, but everything should be in moderation. In such a situation, the mother thinks that the son should come running on the first phone call, without thinking that he has his own family, children, and his own life in general.

You can continue indefinitely variants of the development of events wrong love. But I will not bore you with my long top. Therefore, love your children correctly, in moderation and with the mind.

О admin

x

Check Also

Creative personality, preschoolers

As my aunt likes to say: I am a creative person: I want – I ...

We create with a 3D pen, preschoolers

Nowadays, new ways to express oneself constantly appear: stained glass, decoupage, finger paints, drawing with ...

Your father is a slug, preschoolers

We remember this case from our daughter’s childhood very well. Then we once again made ...

Cars magnets from plaster, preschoolers

Recently, guests gave their son a set for creativity, with which you can make fridge ...

Is so terrible Monster High, preschoolers

Even if you have not heard about the characters of the animated series Monster High ...

Is daytime sleep important for a 3-year-old child, preschoolers

I remember the kindergarten with nostalgia. Fun games, delicious pasta casserole, afternoon nap. Yes, now ...

Scenario pictures for speech development, preschoolers

Realizing that in school my child would benefit from such a skill as the ability ...

Son loves a girl from 5 years old, preschoolers

My little yellow-haired sparrow, still such a crumb, but already a person. Watching how the ...

Scenario for the sixth birthday, preschoolers

In three months we will celebrate the birthday of the son. He will be six ...

Dry skin in children, preschoolers

My daughter, like me, has very dry skin of the body. Yes, it is the ...

Saturday in kindergarten, preschoolers

This day was all postponed and postponed, then because of the weather, then because of ...

Streptoderma in children and its treatment, preschoolers

Streptoderma is a skin disease that is characterized by pink spots in the form of ...

Nightmare baby preschoolers

This summer, something incredible happened to her daughter – almost every night terrible dreams began ...

Terrible tales: read or not read, preschoolers

Sometimes I read children’s fairy tales and I get terrified just how much aggression and ...

Ambulance horror stories, preschoolers

The second time in the life of a child I call a child ambulance. The ...

Horror stories for children – the benefits or harm preschoolers

To make the child obedient, they sometimes try to frighten him with the villains from ...

Fears of children, preschoolers

Each of us has our own fears: someone is afraid of heights, someone is insect, ...

Fears of children 4-5 years old, preschoolers

Childish fears are an adult headache. The kid feels his helplessness quite often, and fears ...

Fears of a two year old child, preschoolers

The fears of a two-year-old child can be very diverse: darkness, dogs, a rubber frog, ...

Fears of a 2-year-old child, preschoolers

Children grow, develop. Begin to talk. Immediately it becomes a little easier for parents. After ...

Fear of pain in a child how to overcome preschoolers

Children are afraid of many things. And the most tangible and understandable fear of parents ...

Passions about sweetness, preschoolers

When I gave my child the first time to try a chocolate bar, I had ...

Strange child – indigo children, preschoolers

The beginning of the twenty-first century was marked not only by a sharp jump in ...

Dentist – it’s not scary, preschoolers

Mom, I do not want to see a dentist! I’m afraid, I’m afraid … What ...