Do not cry, boys should not cry, Do not fight, girls are not supposed to – how many times do you hear such phrases when passing by the playground ?! From an early age, we raise children differently. We give girls more kindness and tenderness, boys are taught to be strong and courageous. Are we doing right?
Malkov and girls need to be raised differently from birth, but dAarit love, affection and recognition must be in the same quantity.
Each child is individual, in addition, the psychology and perception of the world is significantly different in boys and girls. The little lady has a small space, and gentlemen need space for exploration. Girls are calmer, more responsive and react to emotions, while boys need constant movement, react to words and actions and seem colder to us (which is far from being the case!).
What if there is a boy and a girl in the house? How to bring up?
one. Never compare them. The boy can not play in one place, the girl will cry more often, because she is more sensitive. Do not immediately hang tags.
2. Give love and affection without limits. Kissing and hugging a boy is as natural as a girl. If the kid resorts to you to climb on his knees and soak up, do not scold him for that! How does a boy learn to understand others on an emotional level, if from his very childhood he is protected from emotions: boys do not cry, boys do not tenderly, boys do not hurt … And then a three-year-old child will tell his mother who asks him not to make noise because she has pain head: Nothing, beat a little and stop – and continue to make noise.
3. In carrying out tasks, boys need a good hint, girls need emotional support. If a boy cannot assemble a constructor, you don’t need to tell him. You have done well for me, you will do everything yourself. After all, he has already tried all sorts of options, and if he turned to you for help, then he needs this help.
four. Boys are unable to withstand prolonged emotional stress, they must be taught quickly and concisely. With girls, you can have a long conversation, painted with emotions.
five. Not only little boys need to be taught to protect those who are weaker, but also girls. If a boy fights with a girl and she is stronger than him, then because she is a girl, he is not less sore! If you do not protect him at this moment, do not regret, then the kid can gradually grow hatred of girls, who are allowed to do everything just because they are girls.
6. All children need to be given the same opportunity to express themselves emotionally. After all, boys are experiencing pain and suffering in the depths of the soul as well as girls.
7. Boys also need caress, like girls. If you allow a three-year-old daughter to climb into your bed in the morning, then why not allow it to your little son?
eight. No need to share toys for men and women. Children themselves determine the choice. There is nothing wrong with this if the girl plays with a typewriter and the boy plays with a doll. But if they repeat all the time that this is not appropriate, they will soon be ashamed of their desire.
Do not let strangers or relatives call your son a sissy when you embrace or kiss him, and a girl as a boy if she is very active. Dad also needs to understand that when a son cries, he, too, needs to be reassured, petted, not just his daughter.
Our grandparents also say that children should be raised differently. But the difference is that girls are given a lot of love and affection, and boys are convinced that men do not need it. And then we wonder why our husbands cannot understand us, hug us at the right moment, support us emotionally, help in the kitchen ?! After all, they raised them – it all starts from childhood.
How do you raise your sons and daughters? Is there any difference in the upbringing of children under the age of three?