Well, we were protected! How could this happen! Well this will ruin all the plans! But! Here you are already going on about your best friend, you are talking to your husband, who is not at all against it, you finally understand in your soul that you yourself could not go on an abortion and deprive the new emerging universe of her life. Long live the third child in the family!
Such a rainbow mood usually ends in the first months after the birth of the child. There comes postpartum depression and it is accompanied by constant stress from the surrounding, seemingly intractable problems.
The older child needs discipline and control, since by starting at this stage of study and upbringing, we will grow up as a result of a poorly educated, selfish, negative-minded member of society (and family).
It is necessary to constantly monitor how the homework is done, to ensure that the day regimen is observed – meals, sleep, sometimes you even need to stand above the soul so that the child can brush his teeth. But how to keep up with it, if at the moment the youngest is shouting on his hands, demanding another batch of milk – you will not unfasten the breast :)!
And it’s good if at this moment the middle child is asleep or is busy with the amazing world of musical drumming or childish music. How to be when their TROE? Well? We act according to plan?
What are our points there?
1. Getting ready before delivery. To get rid of possible postpartum depression, you need to ask your husband to take a leave of at least 2 weeks so that he can help with the children and housekeeping immediately after the birth. The support of the beloved man is very necessary and allows you to quickly cope with the blues. You also need to talk with close relatives and ask for their help. Believe me, even if they can come for two hours a day to sit with younger children while you are resting, the threat of constant stress will be removed.
2. Immediately after delivery. After discharge, arriving home, you observe the picture as after an explosion. It’s time to set new rules. First and foremost – no one is waiting for mom to get out. The order must be established immediately and the husband is responsible for this. Then the children themselves get used to it. We distribute duties – after work, dad goes with the younger children to the street, you are with your hands untied and the eldest child, you do household chores, the older one can wash the floors, clean the potatoes, bake the cake under your supervision, and much more. Kids love independence.
3. Continuing. Do not try to do everything yourself, so even the horses die. Reassigning some of the daily duties, as they say here and now, to her husband, relatives, older children – will allow you to have enough time to enjoy the process of educating the three rising universes. But no one says it will be easy, but even women who lay asphalt are drawn into their work.
The main thing is that at least occasionally there were weekends and smoke breaks for psychological health. And, from my bell tower, I can say – a woman can do anything! Especially when she is happy!
P.S. And there you look and the fourth is just around the corner 🙂