Everyone knows the children’s saying: Give me my toys, and do not touch my pot. So here it happens every day, because at home we have two children, which means rivalry, a permanent division of property and tears. How tired I am!
Although now, of course, it is easier, the daughter has grown up and has become more consciously communicating with her brother, realizes that he is small, and she has also grown out of all-consuming greed. Well, I made some conclusions and changed something in our life.
And before that it was a complete hell. From the very morning my cries were heard! The sounds of blows and the roar of the little were heard. He was still sitting with difficulty, and the elder sister beat her in vain and took everything away. Without parsing, just to select.
Word Dai he learned to speak in 9 months! Very revealing, I think.
How to fight?
Well, let’s start with the fact that as long as at least one child does not grow to a conscious age (in my experience – up to 4 years), the situation cannot be completely rectified. It remains to adjust and cheat.
Correct – try to offer a compromise. Let brother play with this spatula, and you and I will draw. Give him the ball, let’s go find you another, the most beautiful, and so on.
Sly – multiply everything by two. Buying everything in double volume – two toys, two clothes, two candies … It’s harder with sweets, the little one can’t be sweet.
And again the trick – mom distracts her brother while her sister eats candy. Or eat later when Dema will sleep. In general, you can always think of something.
True, it takes a lot of time and effort, all day long you watch around the children and solve their conflicts. But diplomacy skills are always useful in life.
This text is my view on the problem, but there are opinions from other moms, I suggest reading quotes from the Parent Forum of my city:
We have an iron rule, the elder younger one does not hit. It seems to have taught – at least what she does to him – bite, scratch it, etc. – the son suffers, my name is calling.
And so, at first, he also knocked her, even bit her, we had a serious showdown about this, and more than once. Simple words and strict views will not help.
And all the time she was taldychila – she is small, you can’t beat her, next time you call me better, I will take her away. Our toys are all shared – these are son’s toys, these are daughter’s toys. From this and judge if disassembly. Learn to change, share.
I enclose a place for my son, if he wants to draw, to play constructor, I have to do a whole barricade. If he has a big building, you have to carry his daughter at all so that she let him play on his own.
I have three of them, when they started to understand, especially the older ones, until the youngest was born, I seated them in different corners, and forbade them to communicate, and she strictly followed that they did not even look at each other.
She said: siblings who cannot even share toys among themselves should not play together, sit and think about your behavior!
As a rule, in 5-10 minutes they could not live without each other, it was even funny to watch them, as they moved unnoticed to each other, and – the world. And if after some time began op, I was reminded that there will be.
I don’t observe anything like that now, but if something starts, the eldest son will immediately settle: Mom, I myself, and repeat my words, which I once told them, probably his instructions were better imprinted on him, since he was older.
In general, each mother has her own secrets. The main thing to remember is that all difficulties and offenses will remain in the past, and in the future your children will have a close relative who will help and support forever.