I decided to look at myself. I will say it is difficult. Break away from everyday and important matters and look at your own personality. And it is still difficult to come to terms with the fact that I am wrong, this is self-criticism. But looking at myself, I understood a lot.
Do you think I constantly pay attention to my children? Unfortunately not. We live with my husband’s parents. And instead of helping me, on the contrary, is full of household chores. Surely, we would live separately, I would have more free time. But there is the way it is.
Therefore, I am terribly tired. And I also envy white envy to those moms who have time to read an interesting book somewhere on a bench in the park. Or knit babies booties and hats. Many friends manage to do crafts with children and go to various events.
Of course, I understand perfectly that contact with parents is very important for children! My attention and reaction guys get anyway. It happens positive, there is a negative reaction, but they will definitely achieve their goal! Sometimes they do not want to collect the scattered toys behind them, eat up a couple of spoons of semolina … These are children, they are unpredictable.
But, to be honest with me, everything is not always smooth. And I can shout, and on the pope to give. Well, how calmly to respond to the mirror, smeared with new expensive lipstick? Or a torn bag of rice or cereal that was dragged around the house? You see, the children – they are still children!
But I looked at everything differently. Of course, negativity can be avoided. You just need to pay more attention to children. When mom has a good mood, she spends a lot of time with children. I know it by myself. One must always be in good spirits! And it is worth distraction for children, not for work! Although, I have the opposite.
I’m all about household chores. I love it when it is clean: the floors and windows are sparkling, there are no crumbs and dust on the carpet, dishes are washed. I love it when it’s prepared to eat: the first, second, and compote with buns 🙂 But, the truth of life says that if something is good, then in some area of life it is bad. After all, there is still a spouse, small children and work.
And I, like many moms, have social networks. Why do they become more important and more important for us than a child? Many people view the pages of friends, like photos of their children, at a time when their own children are left to themselves? Paradox, but quite truthful.
No, I judge not by myself! I go there only when the children are sleeping. Whether it’s lunchtime or night time. And I prefer to communicate with those people who are dear to me and interesting. Why waste time on those who do not respect you and do not seek to communicate?
You know, I noticed that time is worthless. You sit down at a computer, look at what’s new in the world, and pass an hour or two or three … I have some illusion of the fullness of life. What is it, full life? How to keep up with children? But what about dreams, my personal desires and aspirations?
These and other questions recently have been extremely disturbing to me. But, you know, if we are in pursuit of our dreams, then we are setting an example to our children. We show that they may have their own preferences, dreams, dreams. They also learn something, they adopt a behavior model from us. Dreaming is important, as for me!
The joy of being with children
Sometimes it seems to me that the joy of communication is much more important than development. I do not argue, to develop intelligence in a child, various skills and qualities – this is undoubtedly important. But communication with children is also an important component of our life. If you do not achieve understanding at this age, then where is the guarantee that we will understand our children when they are teenagers and become adults?
Children and so develop, according to a certain logical chain, which is embedded in them by nature itself. Noticed that knowledge they grab from everywhere? And in the kindergarten, and in school, and in the yard, they learn a lot from other children? Like sponges, they absorb certain knowledge, behaviors, expressions.
And as for me, an hour or two classes for a preschooler child are not as important as a joyful day spent with my mother! This can be a trip to the park, a joint picnic, a walk in nature, a family photo session. But it’s very important that you be together!
We are mothers, the closest and closest friends to our children. And only we ourselves can teach children to show love. It is much more important not to sit on the Internet, in some group or on the forum, but to go with the child to the theater or to the playground. No social networks, television, gadgets will not replace the joy of communicating with your own kids!
Do you think I’m right? And how to properly communicate with children?