With the birth of the baby, an inexplicable feeling of anxiety appears, I want to protect him from all troubles and problems.
Did the child run and fall? It is urgent to rush to him and handle the wound. Better yet, do not allow him to run or drive him by the handle. Have a child taken a toy? We need to deal with this terrible, ill-mannered offender!
To be honest, I did it the first time, but my daughter stubbornly refused to notice my warnings. She continued to run and fall; try to pick up other people’s toys and not give yours.
Of course, I worried every time, and then the thought came up: maybe, if it’s not deadly, well, or not too dangerous, then you shouldn’t constantly pull up the child? Let him figure out and understand how to act in different situations, and by his example he realizes that there are forbidden things.
For example, when I cook using the oven, my daughter often reaches for it. I get very scared and pull back: you can not, do not touch – hot. But! The daughter does not leave attempts. Maybe she is so bad? Hardly. Most likely, the words cannot be, hotly, dangerously she does not speak about anything. So is it worth saying them?
I recently conducted an experiment. My daughter reached out to the hot teapot, I saw it, but said nothing. She touched and quickly removed her hand. In general, she apparently did not like it. Then I said: Hot, the kettle is hot.
The next time, when she reached for the oven, I simply said that she was hot, and my daughter immediately pulled her hand back. It turns out that she understood the word ardently by her own example and did not check it out this time.
We give the child a chance
Seeing that this approach has a good result, I now often use it. My daughter is going to the mud – please, only then will you walk dirty. Enough 1 time – my daughter began to bypass the dirt.
She tries to go up the stairs herself and pushes away my hand – fine, you will fall. Falling, of course. I really do stand in the back. But my daughter quickly understands – in such situations, need my mother’s help.