Discipline is not only an army concept, it can also be used in raising a child. Moreover, the presence of it, I believe, is necessary.
Translated from Latin, the word discipline sounds like consistency, severity. And the interpretation of this word: the rules of conduct that comply with accepted norms in society or the requirements of the rules of order.
That is, there is something associated with etiquette, good manners. After all, for example, putting your feet on the table is not only a violation of discipline, but also a disregard for the norms of decency.
Discipline and children
Nowadays, the course of natural parenthood, the absence of rules, penalties, and parental authority are popular. If a child does not want to eat and sleep, then it is not necessary to insist; does not want to go for a walk – the whole family is at home, etc.
For me, this option is unacceptable. This does not mean at all that a scandal arises at home if the daughter falls asleep 5 minutes later than the usual time, but there are rules and regulations that must be adhered to.
This includes the daily routine: main meals – breakfast, lunch, dinner, training, walks. Here, too, the family hierarchy is not a mother under a child, but a child under a mother. And the fact that I am an authority for my daughter does not mean that we are not friends with her.
There is also discipline in the kindergarten. This and compliance with the regime, and an appropriate attitude to the teacher.
How to teach children to discipline
1. Rituals. Their compliance will help to adhere to a certain daily routine and behavior. For example, an evening toilet or reading certain books before going to bed automatically set up the baby in the desired fashion.
2. Constancy. Now in many families, the scheme is an evil policeman, a good policeman. I do not argue, the attitude towards the child may be different, mom, let’s be more gentle, and dad stricter. But if there are contradictions regarding the observance of discipline, the child will be quite difficult to understand how to behave.
3. Exceptions. Like all rules, there are also exceptions. For example, attending a daytime activity makes daytime sleep impossible. Do not forget to explain to the child the reason for the violation of the regime.
four. The presence of discipline, as indicated above, implies punishment and encouragement. It all depends on your methods of education. Someone as a punishment deprives cartoons, and someone walks. However, do not forget that the ratio of punishments and rewards should be approximately 1: 6.
5. Personal example. This is obvious – if you force a child to put his things in the closet, but you do not do it yourself, then the meaning of such education tends to zero.
What is it for?
The daily routine allows the preschooler to feel more confident and safer. After all, the child knows what awaits him at the end of the day or tomorrow morning. Try to always warn your child about upcoming events – holidays, guests, events.
Disciplined children more easily go to contact with peers, better control themselves, their behavior and emotions, are obedient and recognize the authority of adults. And this is not the desire to turn the child (the individual!) Into a limp, pliable plant, by no means. It is simply the observance of socially accepted norms of behavior.
For the parents the discipline of the child is no less important. It is important for me to be able to plan my day, I often visit public places with my daughter and I just need my child to be obedient and disciplined.
Discipline is not rigor, punishment and the army. This is a child’s observance of certain rules and boundaries. And the task of us adults is to help the kid figure out and determine his place and way of behavior in our society.
And what about the discipline of your children?