Teaching a child the rules of behavior at the table should be from an early age. It is better to teach the kid a culture of behavior at the table indirectly, without forcing or insisting.
Acquaintance with the rules of etiquette at the table should begin with the introduction of complementary foods, because it is then that the child meets with the first cutlery – a spoon.
In this case, you act by educating and teaching, and not by adjusting the child’s behavior, by pulling away and correcting.
It is no secret that the role of the student children usually prefer the role of the teacher. Playing with dolls and plush toys, children learn etiquette very willingly. From adults it is only necessary to throw more and more new situations that will be played out to cover all cases from the life where you need to know the rules of etiquette.
My daughter loves to sit on dolls, lay out toy dishes in front of them and teach them – do not talk at the table, do not chomp, eat carefully, etc.
Of course, we should not forget about a personal example – even the most entertaining games will not give the expected result, if before the eyes of the children there is no worthy example to follow in your face.
Watch your behavior towards the child when other people are at the table or when you are in public places. Usually, children take criticism very negatively in the presence of someone.
Behavior at the table for adults and children is not much different. Although I believe that a three-year-old child does not need to know about all the intricacies of table setting and the purpose of all cutlery. It makes sense to introduce the fish knife and other lobster tongs a little later.
Pampering and playing with food in our home are unacceptable. I even have a personal fad about such a popular way of developing fine motor skills by sorting vermicelli and beans – I am against it. With the beginning of prikorma instead of the tender contemplation of how the baby enthusiastically smears porridge on the table, and the curd on the walls, it is better to immediately indicate that you can only eat food.
That is why I stop any seemingly innocuous activities with food – patterns on the table of salt and sugar, modeling figures of breadcrumbs, etc.
At the table should sit straight, do not bend down to the plate. During the meal should not make noise – eat smacking, talking, teasing.
Explain to the child that instead of reaching for a dish or object across the table, you can politely ask a number of people to serve it. On your own example, show that before you put something on your plate, you should offer it to the others sitting at the table.
Babies are usually enough bib, older children should be introduced to the purpose of napkins. Just in case, let me remind you that before eating you should wish to enjoy your meal, and after that – thank your mother.
Years up to 3 babies usually have enough spoons. I immediately explained to my daughter that we have teaspoons, table spoons and one dessert spoon. This is better than retraining from big, medium and small to new names.
In our kindergarten, forks were given to children only a couple of months ago, that is, from the age of 4. However, my daughter learned to wield with a fork back in 3. With the knife, the question is still open – we only have toy and metal safe ones (like those intended for butter). The use of them is only at the level of the game.
Make sure that the rules of conduct at the table were something ordinary, and not a model of behavior in case of the arrival of guests or visiting a cafe. These should be everyday rules, because to be cultural is always necessary, even alone with yourself.
And how do your children behave at the table?