I have written several articles about my child on Alimero: A child with special needs, A child does not speak at the age of three, Registration of a child with special needs in kindergarten. I would be glad if they were useful to someone, and if someone got useful information for themselves. I have repeatedly responded to letters of the same moms as I, who had children with different features.
The statistics does not please us, and every year premature babies are born. Fortunately, medicine is moving forward and save even the weakest children.
I will say in a nutshell that I gave birth to a daughter at 34-35 weeks of pregnancy and my amniotic fluid was leaking for two weeks (intrauterine hypoxia). If anyone is interested, you can read in my articles. The doctors did not warn me at all about possible developmental problems. I discovered everything after a while and I realized that there are some problems.
To tell you that this was the hardest year for my husband and daughter and that is not to say anything. Endless hospitals, tests, doctors … After a while, I was sick of it all, but I understood that I had to fight.
A premature baby can be very restless, especially during sleep. You know, I am now observing the development of a healthy child who is being cut down at the age of one year in a matter of seconds and I just wonder – is it really possible?
In my case, this was not the case. Masha for the first 4 months could not sleep anywhere else except for me and my husband (in the truest sense of the word). It was enough to put her in a crib or on the sofa, there was a piercing cry. So they slept, on duty for almost a year, and they were afraid to even breathe when their daughter fell asleep.
If a healthy child has a colic period of 3–4 months from birth, then it lasts up to 7–8 months here. Maybe this is due to muscle hypotonia, which we had from birth. I had to go to the toilet through a tube and call an ambulance for periods.
Physical development and speech
My daughter began to try to walk only in 1.2 years, and she went to 1.5 years. Everything happened late in about half a year. She began to roll over in half a year, sit in 8-9 months, and crawl by the year.
From birth, my daughter reacted positively to those around her, she did not lay with a log: she smiled, walked, danced familiar faces, etc. Our speech is still not developed by our age. If other children answer questions quite clearly, we are not 4.5 in our 4.5 years, and we do not always understand, although we are talking incessantly.
Kindergarten and school
If you have a premature baby with some developmental problems, be it physical or speech, get ready for a special city commission and pre-select a specialized kindergarten.
We were kind of lucky and I arranged for my daughter in an inclusive group in a regular kindergarten. Get ready for the fact that you will have to pay a certain amount of money, and a considerable one. It all depends on the region in which you live and on the conscience of the staff.
I think about school all the time, but I’m driving these thoughts from myself. As stated in some movie: I will think about it tomorrow. I do not want to give my daughter to a specialized school, because she is a socially active child, contact and cheerful. I will try to agree to give it to a regular school.
The birth of a premature baby has many consequences. What they will be, depends only on mom and dad, on their strengths and capabilities, as well as on the degree of prematurity.
I wonder if there are readers who have babies premature? And how do moms and dads solve all sorts of problems? It is very interesting to hear different opinions.