With age, children develop imagination and imagination. Often, they are the cause of many fears, including the fear of sleeping alone.
I remember myself in fragments from five years. It was then that I was a little afraid of the chandelier, because it seemed to me a sort of Serpent Gorynych. The company was composed of patterns from the carpet and bedclothes that came to life in my imagination.
True, my fantasies were mainly directed in a positive direction. And the presence in the room with me sleeping brother made my sleep calm and serene.
One of the reasons may be over-stimulation of the child’s nervous system with visual images the day before. Agree, now in many cartoons you can find scary and evil characters. And if you add to this the soundtrack and dynamic picture, nightmares can almost be guaranteed.
Hence the conclusion – if we even watch cartoons before bedtime, then we will be as calm and positive as possible.
Often parents with their own hands, or rather, with words sow fear in the mind of a child. So, the daughter of my girlfriend for 2 years (now she is 5) refuses to sleep alone because she is afraid of Ursula. And the fact is that at one time, mother used this sea witch as an educational tool. A couple of phrases And then come Ursula or You will behave badly, you get into the kingdom of Ursula did their job.
Another reason for the fear of sleeping alone may be the reluctance to be away from mom. Many children are very attached to their mother, and this is normal. In such cases, force in any case not worth it.
For example, at one time the daughter categorically did not want to sleep herself, but then we were able to agree with her that she would fall asleep just holding my hand. In addition, it is very important that the child be sure that the mother will not go anywhere and will come to him at the first call even at night.
With a child of preschool age (4-6 years) it is already quite possible to agree. So, my daughter is very easy to interest in an interesting set of bed linen – with your favorite cartoon characters or animals.
Conversations on the topic work well with age. Children sleep separately. It is better to begin to conduct such conversations in advance in order to prepare the child for the transition to his own sleeping place.
Only a child psychologist can cope with serious fears. Often in the subconscious of the child can be stored images of the accidentally seen, about which parents do not even suspect.
At home, you can try to visualize fear. For example, draw it in the form of a dark figure, and then destroy it together – tear it into small pieces or burn it!
It is very important to talk with the child, then the parents will be aware of all their fears and experiences. It is very important for me to settle in my daughter the confidence that she can count on me always and everywhere. Parents should associate the baby with a stronghold of protection and positive, something like that.
Of course, it may be convenient for someone to sleep with a child, but I believe that there is absolutely nothing for a preschooler to do in the parent’s bed. And with all the fears you can cope, there would be a desire!