My daughter is a little girl. To feed her is very difficult. You have to endlessly persuade, promise different rewards or even give ultimatums. Still, every attempt of mine ends with daughter tears or hysterics (both her and mine).
For example, I pour my daughter soup. We agree in advance that I will pour one Polnichka, and she will completely eat him. She did. Fifteen minutes my daughter looked at the plate, not having tried a single spoon. It turned out that she wants to eat exactly 6 (!) Spoons and not a spoon more. So he eats under my loud bill. Otherwise – refuses. And we have such a cult of six spoons every day.
The reasons for this behavior of children may be different. I can highlight such:
one. Dislike for certain products. Many children do not like cottage cheese or, for example, milk. For my daughter this is not observed. In kindergarten she eats absolutely all dishes. I do not eat anything at home: no soups, no porridge, no vermicelli. By the way, milk is our exception. His daughter can drink liters.
2 Frequent snacks. With this, we also have no problems. I had to eat snacks in the hope that my daughter would normally eat at the main meals. Does not help.
3 The monotony of food. What I just did not invent! And he made a hedgehog from mashed potatoes, and octopus from pasta with sausages. My daughter will look, admire, but refuse. And I cook various dishes all the time, I don’t feed my family with some soups and porridges.
four. Feeling unwell or worms. The pediatrician advised us to pass tests on the egg list. The result came negative. But, just in case, prevention of worms we did. The daughter feels well.
five. Harm. I made it a separate item. Since the rest of the points, it seems to me, do not apply to my daughter, this is the reason that is closest to us. What is worth only the cult of six spoons!
Fight or make peace?
Sometimes I get tired of struggling with a little nechochukha and start following the advice of Dr. Komarovsky. I do not force to eat, but I remove all snacks. And every time I hope that my daughter gets hungry and asks to eat herself. How many hours do you think we survived such an experiment?
My daughter refused to have a breakfast. Starving – eat. I hid the plate. During the day I offered my daughter several meals. Each time she replied that she was not hungry. Ate a child at six o’clock in the evening. And that, not because asked. Just could not stand my nerves. And, as always, it was not without hysteria.
Sometimes my nerves give up and my husband comes to the rescue. He behaves stricter than me. She can sit with her daughter on the plate for hours. Persuasion does not act on him. The daughter gets up from the table only when the plate becomes empty. By the way, with my dad my daughter eats her portion much faster and sometimes almost voluntarily.
My mom, like all grandmothers, persuades to eat for mom, for dad, adding fuel to the fire with his statements about how thin she is and she has something to hurt. The fact that a five-year-old child can say about his poor state of health himself is not an argument for her.
I understand that many children refuse to eat, and doctors consider it normal. But I continue to worry about the health of my daughter, because such food can cause stomach problems.
Do you think it is necessary to force the child to eat?