Most recently, I became a mom for the second time. The eldest daughter was looking forward to the appearance of her sister. All her conversations were only about how she would love the baby and help care for her. I honestly believed that I would be able to avoid my daughter’s jealousy.
But I was glad early. Immediately after the birth of the youngest, the elder sister shed a tear, complaining to others that she would be loved less than the younger sister, because the sister would be much more obedient than she.
The first days after our return from the hospital everything was smooth. My daughter was so busy with her sister that she simply forgot about her jealousy. But, unfortunately, not for long. Now the baby is two weeks and not a day goes by without the older one telling us that she doesn’t need anyone, that the sisters have many new beautiful things and her mother only takes her for the pens.
I confess, in order to improve the situation, it takes a lot of strength and nerves. The mood of the child changes every ten minutes. I try to put myself in the place of my daughter, realizing that the emergence of a new family member is a big stress for the child.
During these days I have studied a lot of information on this topic and I try to adhere to some rules that I want to share with readers. Perhaps someone they come in handy.
As much as I would not like to be in silence and take a break from everyone and everything, I always take the eldest on walks with my youngest daughter. The kindergarten she attends is right in our yard. First of all, going for a walk, we take our daughter from kindergarten and go for a walk all together. Sometimes for walks we choose a quiet park, and sometimes a noisy playground, where the eldest daughter can run enough.
Such walks are very close. The older sister feels needed, rolling a pram or talking about how her day passed, the sleeping sister.
Caring for baby
Despite the jealousy, the eldest daughter always helps with great pleasure. Therefore, I do what I can do to her: bring a clean diaper, cover the little girl with a paddy or sing a song to her. If the child has no mood and she refuses to fulfill my requests, I do not insist. After all, taking care of the youngest should not be a burden for a person, but a joy.
In no case can not blame the older child that he owes you something. Help for the care of the baby must be voluntary, otherwise there is a risk to develop children’s jealousy to irreversibility.
With the advent of the newborn in the family, all the attention of women, as a rule, gets him. And this is not surprising. Feeding, bathing, walking take so much time and effort that it often does not remain for other family members.
Every effort must be made to prevent this. When the youngest daughter sleeps, I try to postpone all the household chores and give at least half an hour to the older one. At this time we draw, read books, or just chat, sitting embracing.
I hope that soon her daughter’s jealousy about the appearance of her younger sister will come to naught. Are you familiar with childhood reno? How have you managed to cope with it?