The further, the more charm and usefulness I find in our Sunday dad. On his last visit, she noted how useful it is for me to monitor how he tries to communicate with the child. Living material for analysis and conclusions regarding the child and how to raise him!
Boundaries of what is permitted
From our soft-tempered dad, you can twist the rope, which the child uses. Nothing can be done about it, such a dad was born. At one time, when we did not have a child, but there was a cat, the animal did not put him in anything. Now dad lives separately. Again started a cat. And again complains – no respect for the owner.
But one thing is a cat, and the other is a child. Back in the book, a child psychologist with my favorite read about the need to point out to the child the limit of what is permitted, to establish certain rules for communication and behavior in the family. Otherwise, he is lost in the can-not and all this inner turmoil translates into hysteria.
In general, when my daughter misses her dad in a week, and then she still doesn’t see any restrictions, she’s just tearing the roof off. She demands everything from her father, at once and in large quantities. Receives a refusal – gives a tantrum. From here she made the first conclusion – the child must always be unobtrusively in a calm atmosphere, reminding about what is permitted.
Another conclusion that I made while watching my dad is that the interests of the child must always be considered in everything. It seems to be nothing new and surprising, and this is so clear. But sometimes it’s difficult to follow, you give in to emotions and you do not behave with a child in the way that you really think is necessary.
And when Dad comes and tries to communicate with the child, all the shortcomings in communication from the side are clearly visible. Here are formed a kind of reminder how to do the right thing. The most vivid example we have is codename Chanterelle with a rolling pin.
Daughters from an early age madly like this fairy tale. Especially the phrases I will not press you, I will lie on the bench myself … Where is my duck?!. For their sake, she often asks me to read this tale to her, although she can read it for a long time. Naturally, when dad comes, she sticks to him with the same request.
And dad is outraged! You’re already big, and this is a book for the little ones. Let me read you another book, for big ones. Takes to read, and the child protests and requires a chanterelle. On the one hand, I understand my father’s desire to develop a child, but how can this be done against her will?
Especially since she is not asking for development for development, she wants to have fun with her dad. Recently, the daughter is even waiting for his father’s parish precisely in order to tease him with this chanterelle. And this Sunday I even undertook to reproduce the fairy tale in games: she hid behind the door, knocked and asked to let her spend the night.
Also dad painted the coloring: chanterelle with a rolling pin. So that means dad did not miss at home, and painted. But he perceives everything linearly, tries to sensitize her and calms herself, that soon she will outgrow it, and will read serious books.
And I smile, am moved, and I moan on a mustache.