Daughter, playing on the playground on the street, loves to shout heartily during the game. The cry is there in the topic, but it is exactly fun yelling with all its might. Some mothers turn around in surprise. How to behave in such cases? Pull the child or not?
Carousel and a sea of emotions
On the playground, I try not to interfere with my daughter’s games, unless she asks for it herself. Well, or if a really dangerous or conflict situation is not brewing. I usually sit or walk, go about my business, looking at how things are going with their daughter.
She herself loves to frolic. Favorite games – to beat what he saw in cartoons. Therefore, worn circles on the playground with shouts, obscure others. Often, other children are drawn into their play, and they are worn all together.
Recently I watched a picture when children gathered on the merry-go-round and while they were spinning on it, the daughter began to shout at first with delight, and then switched to a joyful prolonged op from the bottom of her heart.
In their get-together, it was so contagious that the children gradually began to scream too. Mostly on the carousel were the same 5-6 years old. But there was one girl of about eight.
She sat with gloomily frowning eyebrows and stared out from under her forehead at my daughter. Now she will tell her who she is and how much mind she has, I thought. Then the girl really opens her mouth … and with the same stern expression on her face, she starts to scream in a nervous bass to the rest.
As parents looked at this picture, I don’t even want to talk. I was waiting for them to hurry up and hurry their children off the merry-go-round from sin.
My soulful torments
I have long established for myself and for the child the rule that you can only scream with delight on the street if there are no baby carriages nearby. I adhere to this rule, no matter how wild the child is. After all, where else would she do it, if not outside, on the court during the game?
The only thing that sometimes confuses me a little is the sidelong glances of other moms who straighten their children and forbid them to behave indecently. But I remember the phrase of a mother of a large family that somehow came across the Internet: … and after the third child, I stopped paying attention to what they think of me as a mother, the rest.
I decided that I can do the same with my first one. Is it more important to me? To make the child feel comfortable. I am not raising the Queen of England for the high society of the Sirs peers. It is more important for me that she know how to listen to herself and realize herself.
After all, we ourselves also sometimes want to become and just scream out from the heart. But we cannot, even if we know that no one will see, hear, condemn for miles around us. And why? Because in childhood they taught not to shout at the playground.
I exaggerate, of course, but I want my daughter to value her feelings and not devalue them. Is it permissible for your children to behave this way on the playground?