They found it in cabbage, brought a stork, bought it in a store … Which of these versions as a child did you hear?
I remembered well the day when a neighbor came home with a tiny, snuffling parcel. My mother and I went to visit them, and I was surprised to see a charming little girl.
– Where did you get it? – I asked.
– Yes, they bought it in a store – a neighbor joked.
And even though I was already almost 7 years old, I took everything at face value. I didn’t disturb my mother with questions, but I glanced at the shelves of toy stores, hoping to see the same snorting bags …
I remembered this story when my 5-year-old pussy asked me a question: Mom, where do the new children come from?
Not so important how old your child is. Usually, children from four start to ask such questions themselves.
No need to start an enlightenment conversation with the bay-floundering, just because you decided on such a delicate conversation. Let the child ask about what he wants to know. We have an impetus to the question of the kids pushed the birth of kittens.
You can also reveal to the older child the secret of his appearance when the second baby is expected to be born in the family. It’s even better, because he can see how mother is changing, her tummy is growing. Can feel the tremors of small hands or legs.
And most importantly, do not postpone the conversation for later. None: grow up a bit, come on tomorrow … While you hesitate to answer, there will be more enlightened peers and tell this! …
Yes, one more thing – the parent who was asked the question must answer the child. No need to translate the arrows: let the mother tell, she will turn out better. And sometimes moms are sent for an answer to dad, this is wrong.
It seems to me that it is not necessary to delve into the very process of conception, to talk about the division of eggs and the set of chromosomes. All this they can learn a little later, in biology class.
At this stage, the child needs to know that he appeared due to the love of his parents, and that his appearance is an unconditional happiness.
It is great if you have ultrasound images. They can and should be shown to the child. Tell how he grew up and developed in his mother’s tummy for the whole 9 months, and with what trepidation you waited for his birth.
Most often, the child has enough of these answers for the first conversation. If he is persistently interested in the difference between the sexes and how the children are still inside the moms, you will have to tell about it.
You should not be embarrassed, there is nothing shameful about it. Just talk about how women differ from men, you need in a mild form, as if this is a fairy tale.
To emphasize that nature has laid it this way – for the continuation of the species, a strong bond between man and woman is necessary. Their mutual love and trust are important.
But on the process itself can be told in general terms. For example, like this: mom and dad met and loved each other very much. They did not want to leave for a minute and tightly hugged. From their love, cuddles and gentle kisses, a tiny little man appeared – a part of them and a continuation.
Have you already had a frank conversation on this topic?