From early childhood, my eldest daughter led an active lifestyle (as well as the younger one). At various times, she attended a dance group, developmental centers, vocal lessons, a swimming pool, and, moreover, was engaged in fine arts, fitness, and English. In spite of this, my daughter was and remains a big hoof or slow child.
What is the slowness
To illustrate what I mean, I will give an example from our daily life. So, we are going to kindergarten. I’m starting to wake my daughter. This process usually stretches for 5-10 minutes and cannot be interrupted, otherwise the newly awakened child will fall asleep again.
Well, woke up. Leading her to the bathroom. I leave it there for her to clean up, look in 5 minutes, the daughter sits with a toothbrush in her hand, does nothing and looks in the mirror. Hurry. After that, you still need to dress and braid a pigtail.
Each item of clothing must be accompanied by the phrase: Daughter, get dressed. Weave off. That seems to be all, it remains only to put on outerwear, but even here the daughter manages to delve. When she was small, I worked and in all kinds of circles my mom drove her – a person who is not the most discreet. It is clear that after 5-10 such charges her daughter brought her to the faint state.
I’ll say right away that my baby is going to think for a very long time before I do anything, I’m not very annoying. Maybe because I myself am so? If we are going somewhere together, then while we dress, the husband quietly manages to watch the movie on TV, put himself in order, go for the car and many other very useful things.
But when viewed in perspective, sluggishness is not a very good quality. In the future, such a child will concentrate for a long time in order to make lessons or respond to the teacher. After all, at school, no one will wait until you dream and think up your thought to the end, before you express it.
In addition, such slowness is fraught with constant delays to all important and not very important events, which, again, is unacceptable.
How to deal with the slowness of the child
When you meet up with such a small bit of smoke, you always want to hurry him up. But the most interesting thing is that when a daughter begins to cheer up with all sorts of cries, as our dad likes to do, her speed generally drops to zero. It turns out that the more you push the flak, the longer it will do what it does. Here is a paradox.
Our struggle with slowness began a long time ago, and only today I joyfully reap its fruits. First of all, I gradually began to give my daughter the opportunity to show independence. Of course, this did not happen in the morning, when every minute counts or before the English class.
For example, I gave her the opportunity to gather on the street itself. She recalled that the longer she would gather, the less time we would have to walk. You can still stimulate the child. Especially when it comes to performing duties. So, you can offer: Let us now we will remove your toys, and then we’ll see a cartoon together.
Another such child needs to show by example how to do some things quickly. I noticed that the request to wipe the dust drove my daughter into a stupor. It turns out that she simply did not know how to do it. It seems to us that cleaning is easy, and your bugs will be infinitely distracted while doing all sorts of little things and moving toys from place to place.
I have another secret that helps us not to be late. We just run very fast! Usually, after the two of us and my daughter have been going for a long time, there is very little time left until the lessons in the pool or the lessons of the English language, and therefore we can see how we all go somewhere in full steam. Many neighbors consider me to be very businesslike, because all the time I run somewhere 🙂