My mother often called my brother an egoist, and all because he did not want to share with me the last candy. I really wanted to bite off that sweet chocolate fudge, but my brother clamped it in his hand and hid under a blanket. Remembering those feelings, I want my children not to grow up greedy egoists.
Daughter, mom do not need anything!
I have a girlfriend. She is the mother of a beautiful little girl about 5 years old. The girl is cheerful, mischievous, but when it comes to the fact that she needs to share something with someone, she floods into tears and runs into her room.
I tried to talk to my friend and explain to her that in a child there is no need to cultivate greed and selfishness, but it should be tuned to the fact that even the most delicious bar should be shared with dad or mom.
To which my girlfriend responded very strangely. She laughed and replied that she did not have to share with her mother, and her daughter should owe nothing to others.
Going home, I reflected on her words. Should children share with their parents? We kind of offer them sweets. Why, then, also take half?
When I got home, I did a little experiment. I bought a big packet of chopsticks and put it on the table. I was wondering how my children will begin to share sweets. But they did a great job – they were divided strictly into 6 piles, my husband and I were not forgotten.
My husband and I did not need those sticks, but I was very pleased with the fact that there was a place in our children’s lives. Although I did not conduct any special conversations on this subject. She told me, of course, that there should be a sense of collectivism, but I did not expect that the little ones would take my words so seriously.
Selfishness comes from childhood
Childish selfishness towards parents or brothers (sisters) must be eradicated, it must be fought, this is my firm conviction. This is not a character trait that will be useful to a child in the future. You do not want your beloved son or daughter to refuse to help you in the future, and after all the little candy, sandwiched in a children’s palm, can now make a projection for the future.
Parents in children want to see their continuation, pin their hopes on them, but very often they do not understand that everything is laid from an early age. I do not know how the fate of my girlfriend will develop in the future, but I really would not like her to hear words from her daughter that hurt and offend her in her declining years.
So let’s share! Let today it is candy, and tomorrow it may be such a necessary for someone a glass of water or a slice of bread!
Do you tell your children about sharing with your neighbor?