Recently, a friend admitted that she boldly changes clothes with her young son, not hesitating to remove her bra with him. Like, let it be a normal sight for him. I change clothes with my child too, but I have a girl. So what should be the sexual education of preschoolers?
Is there a problem?
Once I went to a sports camp. We were there many adults and children of different ages. But the showers, of course, were divided only into male and female. There were several dozens of girls and girls, and only three booths. There was a crowd under the shower, and we made our way there with a fight.
And somehow waiting for their turn, squeezing into the company of two other girls in the booth, turn around and see an amazing picture. On the opposite side, under the stenochka, there are two girls of six years old, who passed here before me, but still have not begun to swim.
They stand, in one hand a washcloth, in the other soap, their mouths are open and their eyes are bulging – they are looking at naked adults. I washed and left, and they stood like two statues. The girls were clearly not ready for such a spectacle. So the problem of sexual education is still there.
How to bring up?
An acquaintance, whose son, quietly changes clothes with him, but not completely. That is, shows only the chest. Argues this with the fact that then this sight will be familiar to him, and he will not giggle and secretly look at the female breast, as is usually the case with boys.
I do not know if I would do the same with my son? I remember from the age of five or six we somehow understood that boys are somehow different from girls. But I have a daughter, and I don’t consider it shameful to change clothes with her.
Moreover, we live together. When I go swimming, I put her cartoons. Then I know for sure that the child will not fit anywhere while I’m in the bathroom. But just in case, always keep the door open. The daughter often resorts to say something, to ask – in general, to clarify whether the mother is there.
Of course, she looks behind the curtain and knows that mom is a little different from herself. Initially, there were questions that had to look for adequate answers. But it is better to let her know the answers from me. Then, in the case of some of its inadequate conclusions, I will understand where that I have not explained.
In general, as for me, it is quite possible and even necessary to demonstrate sexual characteristics in front of a child, but in a natural setting, without focusing on it. The less you make a secret out of it, the calmer the child will take it in the future. But do not forget to explain what can be demonstrated for all and what is not.
Here are the conclusions I came to recently. And how did you decide this question for yourself?