By the age of 3-4, babies are beginning to wonder about where they came from, so prepare in advance for the answers so that they can be as accessible and understandable as possible for a child of four years of age. Home is your task, as parents, to instill respect for sexual issues and give so much information that the child does not look for it from outsiders, sometimes asking very funny questions.
My eldest daughter still does not ask questions, but I’m already looking for answers, talking on the topic of sexual development with friends who already have similar situations. After watching the surprised talk about the answers to sexual questions, I have already identified seven major mistakes that make mummies in sexual education. I hope when the time comes I will not allow them.
The first error is to avoid answering
The curiosity of the child in matters of sex (Where did I come from ?, Why does Tanya not look like Vanya? Etc.) need to be satisfied. To leave from the answer, it means to leave the child alone with the fears completely abandoned. If you do not know what to answer, you need to say that you will talk about it later (tomorrow), find the best-acceptable answer in accordance with the age of the baby and be sure to talk to him. In search of an answer, a book or a children’s encyclopedia can be useful, which will tell a lot to your child.
Error two – download the child with scientific quotes
The child should be given information in such a way that he received the answer to the interesting answer and understood it. Medical terminology is not suitable for a child of 3-4 years old. Tell him the best story, where the main characters will be your husband, you and your child.
Error three – the mother answers the son, the father answers the daughter
Moms often answer all questions, as dads are usually busy, but if you have a son, then let dad take the time to talk with his son on questions about sexual development. If it is not possible for dad to talk with his son, he can be replaced by a grandfather, uncle, your brother – any male person with whom the baby maintains a relationship of trust. Thanks to this scheme, when your child grows up, it will be easier for him to speak on intimate topics with a man of his own sex, with the man who once told the secret of his birth.
Error four – the baby does not ask questions, so you can remain silent
Babies are sometimes shy to ask questions, but be smarter and the next time you see a pregnant girl on the street or a mom with a baby for a walk, ask your baby what he knows. Tell the baby a little more than he knows, and transfer the topic to a friend for him. Thus, you will be able to interest the child with your answer, but do not completely embarrass him.
Fifth error – do not rush ahead
Do not give the child such answers that he can not understand, because children are great visionaries, and when they do not understand something, then they dofantazuyu these moments. In what direction they will begin to dream, no one knows, so it is better to slowly and gradually give answers for each age separately.
Error Six – details
If your child has asked what sex is (for example, having heard the advertisements of the Sex with Anfisa Chekhova program), then you shouldn’t explain to your child in detail what sex is during this sensation, and excuse the best postures. This is only an example, but there was a case when my girlfriend explained with many details to her daughter how she gave birth to her (she could not give birth, contractions with pains, and after all she had a cesarean section, etc.). Everything has its time – give the child as much information as he needs, tuning in for positive sexual issues.
Error Seven – to protect the child from the topic of sexual abuse
Nowadays, you need to be a big source of information for a child and give it a large amount. We must teach our children not to go anywhere with strangers. Warn the child that his body belongs only to him and no one has the right to do anything with him or look at him. Your task is to speak on such topics so that you and your child do not have secrets on such topics. We need to protect children from all bastards who go to our cities, but in order to do this, our child must be armed with information (in accordance with his age).