I regularly explain to my daughter the tactics of communicating with strangers. It would seem that difficult? You can not communicate with strangers and a point. But how to be a child who, after this phrase, observes a completely opposite situation? If you can’t talk to them, then why does Mom explain how to get to a completely unfamiliar woman, for example, at a certain address?
This section of the educational process is quite extensive, and I would like to talk about it in today’s article.
I belong to this category of bored pensioners who like to ask children about their age, name and concern with concern, and why are you crying? They love to offer their knees, if all the places in the transport are occupied, or to treat sweets from hidden pockets.
On the one hand, elders need to be respected and be polite. In addition, these people belong to the same generation and times when young mothers, without remorse, could leave the stroller with the baby near the dairy kitchen under the supervision of such grandmothers.
But on the other hand, such compassion sometimes strains. Especially if I or my daughter is not in the mood. I just don’t really like it when they don’t do their part, especially with tips.
Here, my daughter and I are trying to stick to the golden mean. Of course, I teach her to be polite, but do not go beyond one or two questions. One or two polite answers are enough, but no more. Further, it is better to be silent or switch your attention to something else.
Here we have everything strictly – nothing can be taken from outsiders. Even the most delicious candy, even a toy. Nothing. No answer should sound at all. No, thanks and further ignoring.
Recently, my daughter and I were in a pastry shop, and when she went to the shop window, the saleswoman decided to treat her with cookies, her daughter simply put her in a stupor by refusing and running to ask me for permission. I do not in any way doubt the benevolence of her intentions, but I am probably paranoid. Better than the other way around, I think.
Yes, I want my daughter to be polite and educated girl. Therefore, I explain all my actions. Often she asks why we greet certain people, because we do not know them. Then I tell her that we live in the same house, we know each other clearly, so you can and should say hello, hold the front door or the elevator.
Sometimes we work through different situations. For example, I ask about her reaction to the offer to save / pet / see a cute kitten from an unfamiliar man. By the way, not only a man can turn out to be bad, but also a woman and a girl, but anyone, you must agree.
And again, what can a child think if the very next day we are walking on the same platform with a boy (unfamiliar), whose mother is the owner of a cute little dog. It seems that we are strangers, but that mother and I are sitting on the same bench, our children played together, the dog was repeatedly stroked.
In such a controversial situation, all actions must be carried out without fail with parental consent. You can’t say that you can do this within the site? It is possible, but with my mother’s permission and only.
Little by little, I am beginning to realize the fact that I will not be with the child always and everywhere. And it’s better that the surrounding people consider their daughter ill-mannered or rude, but it is better to say that I do not talk to strangers than to get into a bad situation.
I also briefed several times on how to act in the event of an attack. By the way, it is better not just to advise the child to shout loudly anything, but to say it is not my mom / not my dad – such a phrase is guaranteed to attract the attention of others.
And what are your rules for communicating children with strangers?