My daughter had a girlfriend in kindergarten. Rather, children used to go to the kindergarten together before, but recently they became friends. Although this friendship seems strange to me. It is completely built on rivalry.
How do we compete
Once I noticed that my daughter’s stories about how the day was spent in the kindergarten more and more revolve around another girl, Masha. Masha claimed that she was more like a princess – she was wearing a skirt, and my daughter was wearing shorts. The next time they argued, who had a more beautiful dress, and so on.
I somehow did not really attach any importance to this. But then I realized that the rivalry goes exactly between the two of them and is quite large-scale. For example, the daughter brought with her a toy diadem to prove that she is the most suitable princess to play.
A couple of days later Masha also appears in the crown. According to her mom, she made a tantrum at home, dad ran and found a crown for her daughter.
When our Sunday dad misses his visit, he comes in the middle of the week and picks up his daughter from the kindergarten.
Somehow after such an incident, the next day I take the child to the garden, and Dad also leads Masha. Although always led or mom or grandmother. Funny and cute, like as. The girls seem to be friends. Masha’s mom agitates for the next year to go to the same school. But I began to gnaw doubt.
What is wrong with rivalry
When I found out what school they were going to, I was even glad. This is the only school in the area where I absolutely do not want to give the child. And I absolutely do not want them to compete. Now these are crowns and dresses, and with age, the subjects of the dispute will become more serious.
Yes, and friendship, built on such a relationship, unreliable. Any subject can become a bone of contention. Again, the older, the more weighty this apple will be, the harder the conflict will be. In general, I am not very happy about such relationships, although there are seemingly positive moments in them – girls are happy to give each other gifts.
And while I was writing, the thought came to me. Masha has a dad who is ready to fulfill her every whim. Our Sunday dad is more concerned that the child is interested in the things that are right in his opinion. That is, in fact, the rivalry is between me and Masha’s dad. And I’m obviously losing here.
True, we have a grandfather, papa dad, who is ready and able to fulfill every whim of his granddaughter. But he comes to us a couple of times a month and does not keep up with all the kindergarten passions. And the grandfather is still not a dad.
Now I sit and think, is there a problem of rivalry in my daughter, or did I decide to ignore my rivalry with other parents?