When we send our child to kindergarten, we often lose sight of the complexity of the relationship between children. But children often reigns the law of the jungle and it happens that adults do not suspect what is actually happening in the children’s team.
I still remember my first day in kindergarten. I grew up with grandmothers, and I was sent to kindergarten when I was six years old, with well-formed notions of good and bad, enough, as I now understand, firmly vaccinated.
It began on a dream hour. When the teacher left, one of the girls began to command everyone, showing her power over the rest of the children. What happened next, me, the home child, just shocked.
– And today Ritka has polka-dot panties! Stand up, show.
And one of the girls doomed fulfilled the required.
– And under the underpants of what? Take it off!
The victim submitted to the fun of the other children.
– And do not even think about complaining, otherwise I will tell your parents everything about you. Okay, lie down. And now you, Anryushka, get up. Well froze, take off your clothes.
A young stripteer lover, enjoying power, was stopped by the arrival of a teacher. And then she managed to warn all children in an ominous whisper:
– If someone comes to me, I will arrange it for him, it will not seem a little!
I was very sorry for the children whom that girl had humiliated by demonstrating her leadership. And being pushed by a thirst for justice, I, when it turned out to be an opportune moment, immediately told all about the teacher. She had round eyes and the only question was: Why didn’t the children who mocked her complain to her? I don’t know what the teacher did, but the strip club from the bedroom of the kindergarten wasn’t working anymore.
Indeed, why no one complained? I think the children were afraid. And the only cure for humiliation in children’s groups can only be a trusting relationship of the child with parents and the active position of moms and dads.
I think that a small child should not be left alone with his rather big problems. Protect for the child must! Every kid should know that he has a rear, defenders who will never give him an offense – mom and dad. Someone thinks that there is no need to interfere and the child should learn to stand up for himself. He will learn, but if everything is allowed to flow by itself, the child can become crammed and cowardly, always offended by everyone – there was no one to learn to stand for himself!
Recently, my friend told me how she scared a girl (in words, of course) stinging her son’s bruises. How educators were indignant – after all, so to act non-pedagogical. But this girl didn’t offend her child, and now he goes to kindergarten without crying. And in fact, we do not send children to kindergarten to get used to getting cuffs there?