Главная 7 Preschoolers 7 Or maybe this is excessive attachment to the child, preschoolers

Or maybe this is excessive attachment to the child, preschoolers

For two years I lived in absolute certainty that my baby is distinguished by a strong attachment to her mother. Sometimes she complained about it, not being able, like other mommies, to devote more time to herself, to go to visit without a child, to go to the cinema or even to go shopping.

And now, like the rays of the morning sun through the pre-dawn fog, understanding came over me … Perhaps at first, my daughter was very dependent on me, but now, in my opinion, everything is the opposite: I am incredibly attached to my girlfriend.

Where do legs grow from?

I remember when I was still in the hospital I really wanted to put the baby not in the child’s cradle, but next to me, to admire her every second, to listen to how cute she breathes in her sleep, to feel her warmth.

Then, at home, little Anya quickly realized the difference between sleeping in a separate uncomfortable bed and in her mother’s loving arms, and even with sisy in her mouth. And I did not resist – I adored my daughter, and wanted her to be comfortable.

From the very first walk she did not like the stroller, flatly refusing to lie there. We walked on the handles, then bought a sling and were again inseparable. The pussy recognized the pram only with the arrival of the autumn cold, in the fifth month of life.


Already at that time it seemed to me that no one would rock the baby better than me, no one would calm or entertain. And so I somehow managed without even leaving her for a long time at my grandmother and going about my business. All my needs are overshadowed.

Awareness of problems or ordinary doubts?

Weaned weaned to 2 years and 1 month. At the moment, they only got rid of daytime attachments, but even this distance is half sad. I’m sad…

A daughter decently endures hardships, with the exception, however, of daytime sleep. She does not know how to fall asleep in any way other than with sisy in the mouth. And this is entirely my merit, whose fruits I am now exciting and reaping.

Recently, for the first time, I left Annushka for 3.5 hours without myself. Of course, everything went smoothly, she is a big and smart baby. But her mother fell into some unconscious childhood.

I do not know how else to explain the fact that it is easier for me to take my daughter with me than to leave for someone, I don’t want to finish breastfeeding at all, I am jealous that Anyuta sometimes prefers someone to my society.

And I treat the perspective of kindergarten as some kind of compulsory duty, and not a new stage in the development of the little one. It seems to me, if it were not for the need for additional funds, I would not have looked towards kindergarten before 3 years.

After all, there my sunshine will be without my mother, in a strange situation, among strangers.

Such thoughts of all moms attend or is it a pathology? It seems to me that it is necessary to find the strength to release the child from oneself, to loosen the binding threads, because it does not decrease love and care.

Otherwise, such nasedkina love can turn against the most expensive man in the world, depriving him of independence and self-confidence. Or, worse, raise a manipulator and an egoist in a child.

I understand with my mind that I need to reorganize and get out of my daughter’s infancy, and the soul so far resists.

О admin

x

Check Also

Sports competitions for preschool children, preschoolers

Unprepared for children, the playground inspires frank horror: everyone there runs somewhere, collides, falls … ...

Sports games, preschoolers

In fact, almost all mobile games develop reactions – the main thing is that there ...

Sports games for children, preschoolers

Today, many parents are passionate about early childhood development. Kids learn letters a year, and ...

Gym at home, preschoolers

I believe that before school parents should focus on the physical development of the child. ...

Sports for a child in 2 years, preschoolers

I have always paid a lot of attention to the physical development of my children, ...

Sports for children from 3 years old, preschoolers

Many parents decide that it is time to engage in sports when the child is ...

Sports in the life of a child, preschoolers

My daughter has been involved in sports for 2 years. A very small husband brought ...

The list of necessary things for the first grader, preschoolers

Next year my daughter will go to school. We have already decided on the school. ...

Do you need a specialized school, preschoolers

Recently wrote to this topic in the comments, but I feel that the topic is ...

Social networks for children are dangerous, preschoolers

Nowadays, children get acquainted with computers and the Internet very early. When I was 5-6 ...

Socialization of the modern child what it should be, preschoolers

Have you ever thought about the socialization of a child? Is it enough for him ...

Sorter entertaining toy, preschoolers

Sorter appeared not so long ago, but had already gained great popularity. This toy is ...

Rivalry between girls, preschoolers

My daughter had a girlfriend in kindergarten. Rather, children used to go to the kindergarten ...

Sunglasses for children, are they needed, preschoolers

With the onset of spring, I do not leave the house without sunglasses. I do ...

Sunscreen milk Eveline for children, preschoolers

Since we started to go to the sea in the summer, I have been buying ...

Modern cartoons for preschoolers, preschoolers

Cartoons are a controversial topic. Someone thinks that TV and computer are evil, and the ...

Modern development of children, preschoolers

Time does not stand still, everything changes – and the level and speed of development ...

Soviet cartoons, preschoolers

I think cartoons are a part of each child’s childhood. In recent years, a lot ...

Soviet toys or Chinese analogues, preschoolers

When I was a little girl, I had a lot of toys that my parents ...

Soviet children’s books, preschoolers

I – 26, and I still belong to the generation that grew up on Soviet ...

We are going with the children in the forest on a one-day trip, preschoolers

It so happened that there are no large parks in my city, but the forest ...

Death of loved ones and children’s impressionability, preschoolers

Recently, my mother and I had a dispute. She argues that it is not necessary ...

Difficult adaptation time in kindergarten, preschoolers

The child went into the garden, now he is without mom all day. But recently ...

We follow the literacy of children’s speech, preschoolers

As far as I like literate and clear speech, it was so unpleasant for me ...