How often babies and kids are already offended by their parents! But the reasons are just unbecoming: mom didn’t give a candy, mom punished, mom didn’t buy a new doll, mom didn’t let go to the disco, mom didn’t like the new guy and so on … But moms also get offended at their children. For what?
The child is naughty from scratch
Agreed with my daughter, let’s go to the store. Agreed that we go only for chocolate. And she ended up in a store hysterical about unbought ice cream. She seemed to be reassured, and then she didn’t like the way we descended the stairs in the store. Scream again. Again calmed down. Began to go home – in any! A scream, a roar, as if cutting it without a knife. No persuasion helps. As a result, the child was brought home in her arms, writhing and arching. And then I burst into tears – from resentment and powerlessness.
Of course, I understand that something was necessary for the child, but for the time being she could not herself explain what and how. But this does not make it easier for me personally. And the insult (yes, unreasonable) arises by itself.
The child did not miss
And yesterday, I rolled on. Nakatilo with all his strength. For two days I worked off-schedule from morning to late evening — and my daughter spent the night at her mother’s house. Yesterday they brought her in, and with a roar she rushed back to my grandfather so that he would take her away with him. Barely left at home. But she cried for another hour: Baba! Woman!
– Daughter, and you really do not want to spend the night at home?
– Did you miss your mom?
– No-no-noooo. Baba Baba Baba.
And right here I have tears right out of my eyes. The feeling that I just do not need a child. And today, on the contrary, the child refused to go to the grandmother. She firmly decided that with mom better. I had to persuade my mother to work.
But then I thought, I thought – and I understood: history repeats itself. When I was a year old, my mom had to go to work because she and her dad were divorced (feel repetitive, huh?), And she left me with her grandmother (my great-grandmother). As a result, at three, I called my mother by name, like my aunts, and my grandmother – mom. Now imagine the condition of my mother then. And before that I did not understand.
The child deliberately offended mom
When I was seven years old, I insulted my mother for not letting me walk. Yes, there was a moment for which I still feel ashamed. Then my mother did not talk to me for two weeks, I didn’t even check my lessons. I will never forget this, because my mother’s silence has always been the worst punishment for me. But she was silent only twice in my life: then, at seven, and at 16, when I almost ran away from home with a 25-year-old man.
The child has forgotten about parents
And now the baby has grown, flew away from the parental nest. Perhaps this is another city, and perhaps – the same. But how often children, having arranged their lives, having acquired a family, forget about their parents! And here the insult comes with a new force – how can it be that it has raised and raised all the life of a son or daughter, but he left and not only doesn’t come to visit, and doesn’t even call and write!
Moreover, it often turns out that they are offended more by those children who live closer. It seems that distance is an excuse. My mother has two sisters, one lives half an hour from her grandparents, albeit in another city. The other is at eight o’clock. My mom lives in the same city with her parents, ten minutes walk. And she is offended much more often than other sisters. Because she is closer, it is easier for her to break out. Although this is often not the case.
Here they are, my mother’s insults. Do you often take offense at your children? And your parents for what offended you?