My daughter is a little over four years old and, of course, it is still very early to draw conclusions about the mistakes of my methods of raising and caring for her. But I have already identified some aspects for myself.
Having knocked on a tree three times, I will say that I was incredibly lucky in terms of the fact that my daughter did not belong to sickly children – she hadn’t been sick for a year and a half, and had only been sick twice before (bronchitis and otitis media).
In infancy, I was too panicked mother – the slightest speck on the pope or diaper rash, and I already call the doctor with stupid questions. The chair changed color to a half shade, and I’m already close to a heart attack. There were many such panic attacks, and all of them were groundless.
If I had a second child, I would have been much easier to treat various kinds of incidents – rashes, snot and broken knees.
I remember my daughter was diagnosed with Otitis, and Kondraty nearly missed me after I read about his complications (up to meningitis and death).
And after bronchitis, I almost begged the doctor to do an x-ray for a case. And what if she has pneumonia?!, Well, at least the doctor was adequate and the husband was nearby.
The ability to soberly and calmly assess the situation was not with me. I hope it is not so now.
Past me did not pass and the propensity to acquire a mass of unnecessary children’s things. Listen to the mother of an adult daughter – do not buy dresses for children under one year old, they are terribly inconvenient to wear, especially considering the fact that the child spends most of the time in a wheelchair.
I remember, I terribly liked one expensive dress and I, having received my salary, did buy it. My daughter at that time was 10 months old, outside the window is early spring. She put it on three times, and then at home. And then, I did not even have time to take a photo;)
Carnival costumes can also be included here – their daughter had two: a snowman and a deer. She also put them on twice, then the new year passed, the costumes became small.
Only recently, looking at the small children of girlfriends, I began to realize that all my attempts to explain and tell to my daughter were, excuse me, to the point of a bulb.
Well, the one-and-a-half-year-old child does not understand that there is a current in the socket, which is a directional movement of charged particles, at least two hundred times explain it to him.
The situation is similar with valuable things, cosmetics, medicines, detergents, etc. The most reasonable thing that a mother can do is to remove it from the sight and access of the child.
Yes, it’s a pity to have broken lipstick and a drowned phone, but in the first place, it’s the mother who left the thing in a prominent or not so much to blame. It remains only to be glad that this was a telephone, and not a package with medicines, for example.
Personally, for all 4 years, I had only two cases of property damage, and those relatively recently, when I was more or less relaxed – eating an ascorbine pack and a Humer vial poured on my head (seawater for washing the nose). Little things like broken eggs and scattered noodles do not count.
Now I know that I need not to explain, but to hide. Not to talk about the consequences of running out on the road, but firmly hold her hand (by the way, my daughter once got under the car, in which was the lion’s share of my guilt).
But indeed, it is cheaper and easier to hang stoppers on doors, a refrigerator and even a toilet, to put plugs on sockets than to talk about the consequences, especially considering that young children have so many impressions about the world that most of your monologue crashes. them through the other ear.
My friend, who has four children, often says that both pregnancies and children are completely different. And with each subsequent child, she is convinced that she knows absolutely nothing about children.
However, looking at her attitude to the kids, I understand that it is necessary to treat them more simply or something. It is at an early age that for a child you are the whole world, but with time the boundaries of his knowledge expand.
Do not forget about yourself, giving all your time and health to the child. Do not forget to follow and care for yourself.
Until two years should be at arm’s length from the child everywhere – on a walk, playground, away, etc. But after – to give the baby the opportunity to contact and communicate with other children.
And what mistakes did you make?