Time does not stand still, everything changes – and the level and speed of development of modern children are not the same as they were even a few decades ago.
Do not miss the moment
Nowadays books on child psychology are very popular, more attention is paid to raising children almost from the cradle. These changes are related to the fact that only relatively recently psychologists have found that the methods of education in childhood are directly related to the characteristics of the personality of an adult.
In other words, what we are now depends directly on how our parents raised us. And if a person is a clearly marked leader, ambitious, has organizational skills, this means that all these qualities were instilled and developed in his early childhood.
I have repeatedly written about the fact that one should not suppress a child, shout at him, grow complexes and self-doubt in him. It is well known that children usually copy the behavior of their parents, and if, for example, quarrels and disassemblies are frequent in the family, the child will subconsciously strive to create a similar unit of society.
Watch your behavior, words, manners, expression of feelings towards the child and spouse. After all, even a one-month-old baby feels the emotional state of the mother – if she is upset, then the baby is capricious. Yes, it’s much more difficult to argue in theory than in practice, but you should work on yourself, make efforts, learn to control your emotions in relation to the child, and often mentally put yourself in his place.
I have my first computer appeared, it seems, the class in the tenth, and the first mobile phone – already in the first year of university. The daughter is familiar with the technique and masterfully handled with it in her four years. I would see it my grandmother!
It seems to me that it should be recognized that the technology is present in our life, that the progress of the future and the mobile phone is no longer a luxury, but a means of communication. Surely, when my daughter reaches my age, she will no longer read paper books, as I, for example, have almost forgotten what floppy disks and 5.25 MB drives are.
Alas, there are negative aspects of the modern world – the Internet is full of violence and debauchery, crime is raging on the streets. And if I myself went to school from the second class, my brother went to workouts to another district of the city from the fourth grade, now, I am afraid, I will have to take my daughter by the hand to school until the tenth grade.
Remember how from an early age we walked in the yard, went to the store, and now every mother is afraid that something might happen to her child due to the presence of a phone, for example.
Now the availability of extra classes in a child’s life depends not only on his wishes, but also on the availability of money from his parents. The number of sports clubs and other circles is decreasing every year.
For example, classes in English for a preschooler will cost around 3000r., Gymnastics – about 2000r .; dancing, swimming and tennis are more expensive. Add to the prices the cost of training materials, sportswear, and equipment.
Again, the majority of classes are held in the afternoon (16-18 hours), and if the mother is working and the grandmother is not available, then there is no one to lead the child to the section. Is that a nanny, but her services also cost money.
It should be recognized that now children are developing faster, it is easier to assimilate huge amounts of information, they are aware of their place and importance in society.
And this fact must be used to your advantage – talk to your child, tell him interesting facts from the life of animals, plants, the galaxy. After all, the Internet is not only for cartoons, because you can monitor the hummingbird’s nest through the webcam.
What do you think is the modern development of children?