The topic of raising children was and will always be relevant. How many differences, opinions and everything else exists from different sides. Parents, grandmothers, grandfathers and even strangers uncles and aunts try to speak out and impose their opinions. The struggle for power over children probably continues in every family.
I was not an exception, with my mother and not only we have disputes on the topic of raising a child. Sometimes I think that if I lived with my daughter separately, I would have managed to avoid some of the misses in upbringing that my grandmother contributed to. But on the other hand, she teaches her daughter useful things. So not all grandmothers are bad, in my case 50 to 50.
I would like to express my opinion on such a popular topic as mistakes in raising children.
I recently read a topic on Alimero on this topic. It seems to me that in the future such guardianship will bring a lot of trouble to the grown-up child. Too much attention to the baby, will provide a substandard stay in adulthood. A person cannot do everything himself, as he is accustomed to the fact that mom or dad is always there and will always help.
I do not consider myself too caring mother, but not once noticed the puzzled looks of mothers when I say to my daughter: Do not run much. In some moments, my guardianship is due to the fear of injury at my daughter. I once mentioned this in the comments and topic. Masha more than once broke her lip and had to be sutured under general anesthesia. If everything was in order with muscle tone, I would not be so hard.
Once I read a story on a blog of a woman who claimed to the whole world wide web that she did not love her child. Who waits can not wait for her daughter to grow up and leave her alone (maybe you read). This is of course the worst case.
It is very important for children to feel your love, care and attention. The disadvantage of this may destroy the child as a person in the future. And can even make him cruel. It seems to me that just unloving parents can raise criminals and tyrants.
Priest and shouts
And the most cruel children are those who are exposed to violence at home. Or who just watch family quarrels with fights. I think many have seen a huge number of videos with teenagers who mock each other and still laugh while considering such actions cool.
Sometimes, such behavior on the part of parents can provoke a child’s reticence in the future. A child who is subject to violence, both moral and physical, becomes detached and slaughtered.
I do not consider myself an ideal mom, but, fortunately, I also do not consider cruel. Sometimes you need to shout to get attention to yourself so that the child understands some things. And sometimes on the pope can slap.
I understand that it is impossible to do this, but sometimes the nerves do not stand up. Of course I try to hold back. I think that at least once, even the most ideal mother gave her child to the priest.
This item is partially related to the first. When I grew up, my mother often told me that my grandparents had spoiled me. Perhaps this is true, since selfishness is enough in me.
Sometimes grandparents bought me what I wanted, of course, whenever possible. But at the same time, my grandmother, and one and the second, were strict with me when I showed my character.
There are a lot of other mistakes in the upbringing of children, which can seriously affect the personality and future life of the child. I highlighted a few basic mistakes for myself. I consider them the most important.
It would be interesting to know, participants, what are the most basic mistakes for you in raising our beloved little men?