Since childhood, I probably painted in my mind the image of an ideal man. Then the 7-year-old girl, he seemed courageous, strong and strong, ready to intercede for others. Now, becoming a wife and twice a mother, I will say that these parameters alone are not enough for courage.
I consider this man a strong, decisive, reliable, responsible and self-confident person. He does not need to be a leader (in a team, in society, at work). It is enough just to possess these qualities and to have, in fact, a true male character.
Oh, how much I know of reverse examples! One happened to observe an incident when a woman took upon herself to take care of very important issues, and her husband simply left the office. I saw on TV (and it was rather silly and ridiculous) a story with a jump from a bridge. The man wanted to surprise his wife, led her to the bridge, where they do bungee jumping.
But he himself was so frightened that he could not jump on an elastic band. His wife jumped, about which I would not have thought that she was a fan of extreme sports. It struck me, because some women are indeed more courageous than men. And men, it turns out, weak character?
We all come from childhood
One way or another, but our character is formed in childhood. First of all, our life experience, habits, habits, we adopt in the family. Then in kindergarten, school and other circles. Therefore, it is quite natural that character and destiny, for the most part, is laid in childhood by parents.
You know, I used to do everything myself. But I have a great helper – a son! Although he is small (2 years), he is trying to help me bring a bucket of water, give me something and even nail the nails! Alas, his father’s attention is not enough for him. Looking at us with his daughter, he begins to powder his nose and paint his lips. This is ridiculous, of course, but sometimes not so. Why? Because he practically does not see what a man should do.
I have to give him a theory. For example, I explain to him where women’s work, and where men’s. But still, he vacuums and waters the flowers. I thought and thought, and decided that men still have to help so much! And I often ask my husband also to prepare something and water dried flowers. Yes, and craving for plants in my offspring almost from birth!
It is wrong to do what a man does. But what about single mothers who bring up their own sons? Often they protect their children from the outside world. Thereby, depriving them of the opportunity to develop. Sons grow helpless and unadapted to life. I believe that at any age they are mama’s sons, who did not take place, as a person, as a man.
Dad – ideal for a boy
It is not necessary to have a diploma in psychology in order to understand simple truths. For a little boy, the ideal of a man is dad. I think many moms of Alimero will agree with me – the sons adopt the paternal model of behavior.
The son, for example, began to get up early in order to bring dad to work. And before that, just like dad, wash and use deodorant. They do not kiss, but shake hands and say Bye! Because Dad has taught him so. And it is right.
I consider my husband a man. He fully satisfies my needs and corresponds to the qualities that I consider important. Of course, he has flaws, but I try hard to deal with them. He helps me when I ask for it, and the son sees that a man should help his woman.
He also undertakes the task of entertaining guests when people gather at our house. The son understands that this feature must be present in a man. And my husband is a tourist and extreme. Whenever possible, he takes his son with him to the gym. He just runs around the bush looking at everything around him. This year, the spouse promised me that he would organize a hike. And this means that we will go to the river, place a tent there and rest.
The girls (me and my daughter) should swim and sunbathe, and the men (husband and son) will make a fire, cook dinner and sing something with a guitar. Male education is not a threat and assault, but education in love, word and deed. Boys are future men. And it depends only on us how their fate will be!
What would be your opinion? I am very interested in the opinion of mothers of girls and boys!