Have you ever attended parent meetings in kindergarten or school? And How? Do many dads attend this event? We have 2-3 from strength. For some reason, it just so happened that mothers are more involved in raising and developing a child.
Of course, situations are different. And sometimes even fathers leave for childcare leave. However, this is more the exception than the rule.
For the most part, fathers are either too busy making money or not interested in raising their children. Both are bad, of course. After all, a child, especially a boy, needs to communicate with his father so much.
I began to notice that my three-year-old son is increasingly reaching for men. It is much more interesting for him to travel with his dad on working affairs or driving a car with his grandfather, than staying with me or rumbling with saucepans. By the way, a year ago he was completely delighted with pots. Today, they are already indifferent.
The only trouble is that the Pope does not always have time to study with his son. Yes, and sometimes he can not figure out what to take it. Even he reads books to his son somehow aimlessly, simply putting the letters into syllables and syllables into words. A sort of transfer of information, not painted emotionally. When dad starts to read, son often says: Let mom read! After all, I will play the text in the faces, pay attention to the pictures and change the intonation in the course of the story.
My games with my son are always directional, and my dad’s is chaotic. He somehow does not think about the fact that it is necessary to inculcate knowledge and skills in games. He plays with his son, communicates with him, without a goal, just like that. A child’s upbringing is almost entirely on me.
The only thing that dad is really trying to instill in his son is a love of football. He tells him about the match when he is shown on TV, teaches how to scream a goal when the ball is in the goal. The son, funny giggling, turns off the TV. Dad is offended, admonishes, but so far has not achieved results.
In addition, they are fighting and doing strength exercises. Dad shows him tricks, fiddles with him, throws up. Funny show, to be honest.
They also often engaged in modeling. The fact is that I really do not like clay. I even do not know why. But Dad gladly sculpts all sorts of monsters, they called a bunny or a little mouse.
Sometimes, when my son eats badly, I arrange a competition, like, who eats faster, that same fellow. Son tries, puffs, wants to overtake dad. But the funny thing is that dad does not want to lose, too, and also tries.
Sometimes male education, in principle, is only detrimental. In our family, men love to vaccinate what should not be given to their son. No, not by malicious intent, but for the reason that they simply explained: I did not think.
For example, the grandfather for some reason allowed him to lean out of the window of a moving car. Everything, now it is burrows of behavior. And dad – revenge toys, which stumbled. Now the poor cars scatter around the apartment when the son accidentally steps on them.
And our dad does not know how to swear. He talks like a man. Unfortunately, such conversations are not too impressive son. He continues to shkodit, not paying attention to the exhortations. After all, dad did not say it is impossible, he just says something there.
Thus, it somehow happened that in our family I am a whip, and dad is a gingerbread. It seems to me differently and could not have happened. Imagine a situation, dad comes home in the evening, 2 hours are left before his son sleeps. And dad begins the educational process, with prohibitions and punishments. The picture does not add up, at least in my understanding. They have too little time to spend on educational measures.
So I had to take the role of the whip. Dad turned to madness good, kind, everything allows. True, my son listens to me much more than my father.
So, sometimes funny, and sometimes sad, our dad brings up his son. Are your dads just as active, or is there more rationality and purposefulness in their actions?